Interview With My Ex-Girlfriend: Kelly

Welcome to Interviews With My Ex-Girlfriend in which Autostraddle writers get back in touch with their ex-girlfriends to ask them Five Simple Questions:

1. How long did we date?
2. Why did we break up?
3. What did you learn from our relationship?
4. What do you miss most about me?
5. Would you invite me to your wedding (why/why not)?

Kelly and I met in Halifax, Nova Scotia in 2008 at some kind of back-to-school barbeque that the LGBTQ student group at Dalhousie University was putting on. We were both Master’s students, although Kelly was a year into hers and I had just moved across the country to start mine. It was my first time living outside the province I grew up in and I had only come out a few years earlier. We both ended up becoming part of this Dalhousie queer crowd and for a little while were both dating other girls from that group who were also dating each other, but secretly? That was weird. Anyway, we were good friends for a while, until we stopped dating thos...

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Known in some internet circles as Casey the Canadian Lesbrarian, Casey Stepaniuk is a writer and librarian who holds an MA in English literature. She writes regularly for Book Riot and Inside Vancouver about LGBTQ2IA+ and/or bookish topics as well as a monthly column about queer books at Autostraddle called Ask Your Friendly Neighborhood Lesbrarian. Topics and activities dear to her heart include cats, bisexuality, libraries, queer (Canadian) literature, running, and drinking tea. She runs the website Casey the Canadian Lesbrarian, where you can find reviews of queer Canadian books, archives of Ask Your Friendly Neighbourhood Lesbrarian, and some other queer, bookish stuff. Find her on Twitter, Goodreads, Facebook, and Tumblr.

Casey has written 70 articles for us.