15 Gayest Moments From “Avengers: Endgame,” Which Was Great But Unfortunately Not Gay

Have you heard of this little movie called Avengers: Endgame? It only made over a billion dollars last weekend. Yes, I said Billion with a capital B. I’m the biggest Marvel Cinematic Universe (MCU) nerd. I’m writing this article from a desk that has Valkyrie, Princess Shuri, and Okoye bobbleheads to my right. I’ve seen 19 of the 22 Marvel movies more than once (sorry Dr. Strange and Iron Man!). I’ve seen all the ones with major women characters at least five times and I’ve seen Black Panther at least ten times in the last year alone. I saw Endgame opening night. I was built for this moment.

I’m a gay geek girl who loves being gay, and when I watch movies all I look for or see is The GaynessTM. That’s even true in movies like The Avengers franchise, which admittedly doesn’t give a girl a lot to work with. But nevertheless, she persisted. Here are 15 gay and/or feminist nuggets of gold from Endgame that I cannot wait to re-live in obsessive, snarky detail with you!

Two things before we begin:

1. THERE ARE ENDGAME SPOILERS BELOW!! If you read past this sentence, you are agreeing to read spoilers so please don’t go in the comments and go all, “You just ruined my entire life Carmen!” I am not Thanos. I am not here to snap my fingers and end lives. I just want a peanut butter sandwich before the day’s end, ok?

2. I’m not including this moment in my list because we covered it pretty thoroughly last week, but just in case you missed Brie Lawson and Tessa Thompson continuing their advocacy for a Captain Marvel/Valkyrie team up, check below.

OK! Now we’re all set!


15. That One Background Gay Dude Went on His Big Gay Date

Avengers: Endgame finally gave the MCU it’s first on-screen gay character. He was an unnamed background character with under two minutes of screen-time in the first third of a three-hour movie.

*Golf Claps*

The character, played by Endgame co-director Joe Russo, appeared in a survivor’s support group following The Big Snap. He shares a story of going on his first date since the incident, casually explaining that he and his date — another man — both cried during the meal.The Russo Brothers told Deadline that it was important that there be a gay character in the Avengers goodbye. They went on to say, “We felt it was important that one of us play him, to ensure the integrity and show it is so important to the filmmakers that one of us is representing that. It is a perfect time, because one of the things that is compelling about the Marvel Universe moving forward is its focus on diversity.”

Which…. I mean, fine, yes, we all want more diversity on-screen. But if they were serious about having a gay character in the Marvel Cinematic Universe I’d like to point the Russo Brothers to the numerous other superheroes who are already in their movies and are already gay in the freakin’ comics!!! After 11 years and 22 movies, a background side character is just not a good look, boo.

And it looks like Brie Larson agrees with me! In her interview with Variety this weekend, Captain Marvel said that it breaks her heart that LGBTQ+ folks still don’t have supercharged representation on the big screen. Calling out Marvel, the actress said, “I don’t understand how you could think that a certain type of person isn’t allowed to be a superhero. So to me it’s like, we gotta move faster. But I’m always wanting to move faster with this stuff.”

Oh Captain, My Captain.

14. Black Widow Got Fridged

In addition to its bare minimum lip service to LGBT+ representation, they pulled out the oldest – and most sexist – superhero trope in the book! They fridged the only woman member of the so-called “Core Six” Avengers, Black Widow!

If you’re unfamiliar with “Fridging,” it’s a storytelling decision where a woman is hurt or killed as a plot device intended to move a male character’s arc forward. It gets it name from an incident in the Green Lantern comics where the title hero comes home to his apartment to find out his girlfriend, Alexandra DeWitt, has been killed and stuffed in a refrigerator. My dear friends, Black Widow sacrifices herself so that Hawkeye can learn from his past violent mistakes and grow back into the family man he used to be. That’s classic fridging 101 and frankly, it’s pretty disgusting that the MCU would even go there – even more so because they have barely ever done right by Black Widow in the past.

Anyhow, Fridging is gay because of “Bury Your Gays.” RIP Black Widow. We’ll remember you with honor, even when your own film franchise did not.

13. Carol Being Incredibly Unimpressed by Thor’s Big “Stormbreaker”

Men Everywhere: Oh, look at my weapon! It’s soooo big! It’s sooo cool!
Lesbians: *crickets* *yawn* *crickets*

May we all take that righteous energy into our week. Praise Melissa Etheridge, Amen.

12. Black Widow Holding the Entire Avengers Team Together During the Five Year Hiatus Because All the Men Gave Up

11. Scarlet Witch Out Here Quoting Destiny’s Child and Telling Thanos, “Say My Name”

Scarlet Witch: You took everything from me.
Thanos: I don’t even know who you are.
Scarlet Witch: You Will.

A reoccurring theme on this list is “Man Underestimates Woman, Man Gets His Ass Beat” – which is some Big Dyke (or Bi; I’m not here to police your head canons) Energy if I’ve ever seen it.

10. Nebula and Gamora’s Entire Storyline Is a Tribute to Sisterhood and Surviving

Nebula and Gamora’s relationship has been, ummmmm, complicated now for two Guardians movies and one Infinity War now. And while yes, their relationship is familial and platonic – not romantic – the gentleness that Nebula takes toward her arch nemesis when she tells her that in another universe, “We became sisters,” is enough to clench any heart. The fact that in the middle of a three-hour action time traveling blockbuster is the tale of two women, once enemies, who sacrificed everything to believe in each other and trust that the strength between them would finally be enough to take down their mutual abuser – I still get a little teary, just thinking about it.


(And also, if I was really going to go there I’d write an entire soliloquy about how Nebula’s past self’s violent hatred for her future self, and their subsequent battle to the death, is an allegory for conquering internalized homophobia. But you know, we ain’t got time today.)

9. Captain Marvel Putting Thanos in a Headlock

Did I enter this into the Top Ten because of how incredibly sexy it was to see Carol Danvers do what every male superhero before her could not, which was take the God of Death between her freaking biceps like it was absolutely nothing, as if it was some run of the mill bar fight?

Probably, I did. But it’s still true though.

8. Captain Marvel Carrying an Entire Fucking Spaceship on Her Back

Yep. See my previous point about including all the action points of Carol Danvers’ storyline in Endgame just because it’s incredibly attractive to me personally. 👆🏾

But also, SHE CARRIED AN ENTIRE SPACE SHIP ON HER BACK!!!! And not just like “oh she picked it up and then put it back down.” No. Carol Danvers put an entire ship on her mother loving back and carried it from the outer rims of the universe safely back to earth. Have you ever swooned at the Home Depot lesbian who put that really heavy slab of wood on her shoulder and carried it back to her truck without breaking a sweat. Well then. Can you even imagine!?!?

7. This Alignment Chart, Which Isn’t Technically About Endgame, but Damn It’s Too Perfect to Not Be Included on This List

LISTEN OK BECAUSE WE ARE ABOUT TO BLOW YOUR MIND:

A thousand thanks to Emily Armadillo on Tumblr. When you’re right, you’re right.

6. Okoye’s Entire Existence (But Also: See Her Outfit in the Funeral Scene)

Here’s a few things about me and Black Panther’s Okoye. Actually, no I just lied to you because there aren’t many things. There is just one thing. That one thing is that Okoye is a queer black woman who is in a loving and satisfying relationship with Ayo, one of the fellow members of the Dora Milaje. Marvel can try and hide it, they can leave her lesbian relationship on the cutting room floor, they can force Okoye into an on-screen straight romance, it will not matter – I will never forget.

So it came as no surprise to me that when Okoye showed up along with the rest of the Wakandan delegation for Engame’s funeral scene, she’d be a heart stopper. Her dress gave me Hard Femme EVERYTHING. It wasn’t until I left the theater that I realized I’d seen Okoye in a similar outfit before. She flaunts a duplicate off the shoulder cut-out all black dress during the mid-credits scene of Black Panther.

This is the dress.

A femme who knows her angles and appreciates the importance of recycling? We Stan.

5. Carol’s Outfit in the Funeral Scene

Let’s talk about her high collar jet black suit at the funeral. Let’s talk about how she stood alone, proud, watching over the rest of the Avengers. Let’s talk about how her jaw was clenched and her posture was perfect. The swag of it, y’all. Raw. Unbridled. I’m overwhelmed by the memory alone.

4. The Women of the MCU Finally FINALLY Banning Together

The Final Battle. Spider Man has the gauntlet and sees no way forward down the battlefield. He’s panicked. Then, in a bolt of neon orange and yellow light, Captain Marvel stands before him. She grabs the gauntlet, ready to take it that last mile.

He pauses, scared, wondering if she can do it alone.

And just like that, EVERY WOMAN SUPERHERO OF THE LAST 22 FILMS STANDS BEFORE HER. You shiver as the camera pans across them. Your mouth goes a little dry in awe and wonder.

https://multi-parker.tumblr.com/post/184505720210/dont-worry-shes-got-help

I’m glad Captain Marvel’s gonna be OK, but who is going to help me??

3. PS: Valkyrie Fights Almost Exclusively from Riding on Top of Pegasus

We’re at the final three now, so you know who’s got to show up: None other than Marvel bisexual badass herself, Valkyrie.

Admittedly, Valkyrie’s already the gayest person who walks in to pretty much any room. And yes, she’s yet another Marvel character whose character is canonically queer in their comics, but whose woman love interest met the brutal end of the MCU editing floor. But Valkyrie wielding her sword while she’s flying on top of a winged horse that might as well have been a damn unicorn? THE. GAYEST.

Like, go ahead and poop rainbows out of that horse’s butt levels of gayness.

2. Oh Yeah, and Then Thor Hands Over the Entire Future of Asgard to Valkyrie!

If you keep up with the Marvel comics, you maybe saw this one coming. In 2014, Thor’s long term love interest Dr. Jane Foster (we know her as Natalie Portman in the movies), picks up his famous hammer and becomes the series’ new hero. Still, I never thought the movie would go there. I never thought that the MCU’s Thor would ever give up his kingdom, let alone to his bisexual woman right hand.

Just as Thor prepares to leave New Asgard, Captain America also hands over his shield to Falcon/Sam Wilson (Anthony Mackie), mirroring yet another comic book ending. With Falcon and Valkyrie at the helm carrying on those franchises, the future of the MCU suddenly looks a little bit browner and (hopefully) queerer than it ever did before.

1. We All Knew It Would End Here: Carol’s Haircut

The boss up of the century, it’s as if Marvel decided to give up any pretense. Oh no, they leaned all the way in. 

There are times when even something as simple as aesthetics matter. Where a haircut can feel like it’s heard around the world. This is one of those times. When the final battle occurs and all of the Avengers are on the ropes and it looks like Thanos is going to win once and for all – who breaks through in a glowing orb of rage? Who punches the sky and saves the day? This woman, with the most iconic lesbian haircut of all time. This woman who dresses and and acts like a lesbian, who is scared of no man. She saves their ass.

Yes, I want Carol Danvers to be a lesbian whose love life on-screen is more than only our collective imagination. Brie Larson wants it, too. I’m not here to celebrate subtext on its own. But there’s an entire generation of girls who are now going to see this strong woman, who’s coded as a lesbian, and they are going to be told that it’s cool. That it’s admirable. Not that it’s gross or ugly. Not that they should run from it. That they, too, could save the day.

Sure, it’s also a tribute to Carol’s haircut in the comics, but c’mon – let’s give this big ole massive point to #TeamGay. Carol’s debut of her big chop was superhero version of that time Kristen Stewart made every queer woman in America swoon with these five simple words:


And for Captain Marvel in that haircut, so say we all.

Carmen is Autostraddle's Associate Editor and a black Puerto Rican femme/inist writer. She claims many past homes, but has left the largest parts of her heart in Detroit, MI, Brooklyn, and Buffalo, NY. There were several years in her early 20s when she earnestly slept with a copy of James Baldwin’s “Fire Next Time” under her pillow at night. You can find her on twitter, @carmencitaloves.

Carmen has written 125 articles for us.

32 Comments

  1. Incredible list, truly iconic, every one of these moments made me gayer.

    I would love to note that Shuri’s funeral outfit was also life changing! ADDITIONALLY the camera did not spend enough time on Carol in that pantsuit!!!!

  2. I disagree on Black Widow, I don’t think it was fridging! It felt like a natural end to her journey of redemption from all the “red in her ledger.” Would I have been happier if Clint died? Obviously. But it felt true to her character that she would sacrifice herself in the end, and like a willing choice she made (rather than in typical fridging situations, where the female character is murdered by the villain to raise the stakes for the hero).

    She’s also no longer the only woman, so I’m actually fine with losing her. Plus, my feelings might be colored by my dislike for Scarlett Johanssen (although I dislike Jeremy Renner too so honestly either of them could have gone and I would’ve been fine).

    • Yeah…I wish Black Widow hadn’t died, but at least it wasn’t done offscreen or against her will. She fought hard for it, and her choice was to my mind far more heroic than Tony’s. Tony had only a brief moment to get the stones, realize using them might/probably would cost him his life, and act. He didn’t have to maintain that decision for an extended period of time. Black Widow, on the other hand, had to maintain her drive to sacrifice herself in her best friend’s place through an extended fight sequence. Any of the times that Hawkeye knocked her down or whatever, all she would have had to do was hesitate for a split second and he would have been the one to die instead. She fought as hard as she could, getting up again and again, against her best friend, to give her life for him and for the chance of saving everyone else. And in the end she didn’t even have the adrenaline to sustain her; she had a moment of peace, when Hawkeye maybe could have saved her, and she calmly and deliberately made the same choice all over again. Hero’s death for sure.

      I do think they should have had the funeral scene be for both of them, though. And wouldn’t it have been great if the final voice-over message from beyond the grave was from her, not him?

      Anyway. Captain Marvel’s haircut! Valkyrie on a flying horse and becoming the ruler of New Asgard! Yep! (More Shuri and Okoye please…)

    • I thought the same, if she had been killed by a villain, specifically to make, say in this case Bruce, break down, only for him to avenge (lol) her in the end, then yeah I’d say that’s fridging. But this was her own choice, sacrificing herself for the rest of the team. Calling it fridging is devaluing her whole arc

    • Agree. I feel like the dismissal of her death does a huge disservice – she made the kind of heroic sacrifice we see in male heroes and admire. I definitely think there’s a problem with using murdered women as emotional props in storytelling, but this didn’t read that way to me. We also have to let women die the same kind of heroic deaths men do onscreen.

  3. I am SO glad the haircut took #1! When she showed up in the hologram I audibly gasped and stared at the screen in amazement with my mouth hanging open and when she got around to helping Spider Man and the funeral scene I felt simultaneously so seen as a lesbian and so, so turned on. It somehow is the thing I remember more vividly than any of the absolutely amazing scenes that came before them.

  4. you guys, I hated the scene where all the women banded together to fight. It felt so -cheap-. Like, let’s not give anyone any actual dialogue, or like, form relationships with one another or actually support the plot in a meaningful way cause we can just knock out all the womanly stuff in a single scene!

  5. So, I am devastated about Black Widow but I disagree that it was fridging and I think calling it that removes the character’s agency further.

    Hawkeye was already on his emotional journey, it was driven by his family NOT Nat. Fridging is all about the female character’s death serving as a catalyst for the hero, but Hawkeye and the rest were already well on their path.

    I, at least, saw it as Natasha sacrificing herself for humanity. Yes, she chose herself over Hawkeye because of circumstances, but the core of it is getting the stones and saving the world. I wish they’d given her the same reception they gave Tony’s heroic sacrifice, but I see them as the same motivation.

  6. My takeaway from the movie was mostly that it was fine. I mean yeah, the writing was as tight as any of the Avengers movies to date, but the lack of screen time for nearly all of the female heroes really detracted from my enjoyment of the movie. Silly me, I had been worried going to see Endgame before getting a chance to see Captain Marvel (I know, I know…) because I thought I might get spoilers, but she didn’t have enough screen time to risk spoiling anything at all other than the fact that she exists. Also she’s a complete badass, but that was kind of expected.

    As for Black Widow’s death, it didn’t sit well with me because it felt like a continuation in tone from a conversation from the second Avengers when she and Banner were talking about getting together and that they both basically had no worth as people because they couldn’t have children. During that entire fight scene between Black Widow and Hawkeye, that moment kept playing through my head, and I knew from the second it started how it would end because Hawkeye had kids and a wife, so of course he deserved to live more because family values.

    All that said, I’m still not over THE HAIRCUT.

  7. Endgame wasn’t perfect but overall as a big dumb comics movie I enjoyed it immensely.

    However, nothing in the world beats Carols entrance at the end where she EXPLODED AN ENTIRE FUCKING FLEET then began to kick 82,000 kinds of ass. If I hadn’t been in a deeply reclined theater seat I probably would have jumped up and proposed to the movie screen at that moment.

  8. I would love to go deeeeeeep on how Captain Marvel had 3 minutes of screen time, but I will leave that for another time. Like you so aptly said, Captain Marvel is coded as gay. I think it might be unbelievable even to the straights if she showed up with a fella. It kind of cheapens it for me and makes me rethink my support of the franchise if they don’t just say what is so plainly obvious. In this day and age, it wouldn’t hurt the box office so enough already with the scraps of homosexuality. We are honestly ready and earned the real thing.

  9. What I find strange is how out of these moments none were really what you could call gay except the first. The haircut does not make her gay. That is a dangerous generalisation that is too often made. And how come Captain Marvel putting Thanos in a headlock is gay (another dangerous generalisation: that competent and strong women are gay) and yet the entire set of lines about Cap’s ass isn’t gay

  10. Perfect statement on the One Gay Background Dude. To add to it, a friend of mine made me realize that it was even more a cowardly move than I though it was :
    The scene he appears in is so useless that if you take it out of the movie, no one would even notice. And I bet all countries that don’t want to screen gay things in theater will happily do that and mister Russo made it extra easier for them.

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