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Sex + Relationships

How to Go on a First Date That Doesn’t Suck

Be who you are just as hard as you can. Also, be on time.

By Carolyn Yates| January 18, 2021 | 37 Comments
Sex + Relationships

A Very Sensible, Queer Guide to Sending the First Message on Dating Apps

14 first messages that will have you burning up your matches list (with queer pop culture references!).

By Kayla| January 13, 2021 | 64 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Successfully Flirt With the Babe of Your Dreams on Instagram

Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.

By Rachel| January 13, 2021 | 8 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Choose Dating App Photos That’ll Have Babes Swiping Hell Yes

You want to look like your best self: fun, hot, interesting, and lez be real, it doesn’t hurt if you look like you might actually send the first message.

By Vanessa| January 12, 2021 | 32 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Write a Swipe-Worthy Dating App Bio

You have to actually say something in your dating app bio! You just do, I’m sorry. Here is how and how not to do that.

By Rachel| January 12, 2021 | 42 Comments
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Sex + Relationships

Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try Lex and Get Sexy With Words

“The first months of Lex were frenzied and horny and I loved it so much. Even if I didn’t match with anyone I loved the energy. Now it’s people talking about longing and dread and looking for roommates?”

By the team| November 30, 2020 | 23 Comments
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IRL Dating Is Canceled, but Animal Crossing Is Perfect for Cute Queer Dates

Sweetly enough, it’s possible to have a shocking number of cute ass dates on Animal Crossing. I’m lucky to be quarantined with my girlfriend, but we’re running low on date opportunities.

By Rachel| April 21, 2020 | 7 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Sex, Love, and Roleplay: Using Online Roleplay to Connect to Your Partner

How I found my queer identity online, romantically connected with my partner, and how you can too in six easy steps!

By Brie| November 6, 2019 | 3 Comments
Sex + Relationships

10 Queers on What’s Made Them Go for the Second Date

“It didn’t work out, even on that second time, but she was really fun and I thought the haiku was inspired.”

By the team| April 4, 2019 | 15 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Traveling to Meet Your Long-Distance Online Crush: A Gentle Guide

It’s 2019 and the world is our hot gay oyster! But… how do you actually go about planning a trip to meet the faraway queer of your dreams? 

By Vanessa| March 26, 2019 | 7 Comments
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Safe Sexting: Tech Tips for the Stress-Free Sexting You Deserve

The world is full of unknown and terrifying possibilities, like accidentally sending a nude to the family group chat because it was the most recent thing on your camera roll. Protect yourself and loved ones against these dangers and more with easy tips!

By Rachel| March 12, 2019 | 7 Comments
Sex + Relationships

10 Queers Get Honest About Ghosting

Communication is hard, especially when you have to tell someone something they might not want to hear, which is why sometimes we… just don’t do it!

By the team| March 7, 2019 | 50 Comments
Sex + Relationships

11 Queers Share the Best and Worst Lines They’ve Gotten on Dating Apps

“’Look a little crazy huh’ with no punctuation.”

By the team| February 21, 2019 | 39 Comments
Sex + Relationships

A Heart Emoji by Any Other Name: A Brief Investigation of Flirty Emoji

Long ago, when trying to flirt with another girl looked kind of like a Sarah Waters novel but without the ghosts and tragedy, we communicated interest through loaded symbols, like giving violets to crushes. Today, we have emoji instead.

By Rachel| December 11, 2018 | 46 Comments
Herstory

PERSONALS App Brings an Old School Dyke Dating Format Into a Hot New Future, Thanks Instagram

Your favorite queer Instagram dating account has changed its name to be more inclusive, is creating an app just for you, and is hosting a party in NYC to kickoff its crowdfunding efforts Wednesday night, June 13! Read our interview with creator Kelly Rakowski for all the hot details!

By Alexis| June 12, 2018 | 5 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Write a Non-Monogamous Dating Profile

Here’s how to fly your consensually non-monogamous, polyamorous, consensually open relationship or whatever else flag in your dating profile so you get the best possible interactions from it.

By Andre| February 27, 2018 | 17 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Your Guide to Writing the Perfect Gay Personals Ad and Finding Lesbian Love, Thanks to Herstory Personals

We asked Kelly Rakowski of Herstory Personals for some of the tips and tricks she’s gleaned about writing a good personals ad from playing matchmaker to the queer lonely hearts Instagram crowd, and she was happy to oblige.

By Vanessa| February 13, 2018 | 4 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Back in the Saddle of Lesbian Online Dating with the Zoe App

“It really is a brave new world for single queer people, especially those of us in rural areas, because we can find one another as easily as being able to remember the password you need to download a new app.”

By Molly Priddy| February 7, 2018 | 25 Comments
First Person

The Day My Students Found My HER Profile

“I was terrified that I was going to receive a bunch of angry phone calls from parents or a visit from the overly religious principal as a result of word getting out that I didn’t fit the heteronormative cookie cutter mold that all of the other teachers at the school did.”

By Aila Alvina Boyd| October 31, 2017 | 16 Comments
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Everybody Publicly and Shamelessly Flirt With Each Other Right Now

Literally why not.

By Erin| September 19, 2017 | 90 Comments
Fake News Sex + Relationships

5 New Dating Apps For Queer Women That Will Change Your Life

Take a look at these five new super queer-friendly dating apps and download the one that most floats your boat.

By Kai| April 1, 2017 | 40 Comments
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