How I found my queer identity online, romantically connected with my partner, and how you can too in six easy steps!
“It didn’t work out, even on that second time, but she was really fun and I thought the haiku was inspired.”
It’s 2019 and the world is our hot gay oyster! But… how do you actually go about planning a trip to meet the faraway queer of your dreams?
Communication is hard, especially when you have to tell someone something they might not want to hear, which is why sometimes we… just don’t do it!
You want to look like your best self: fun, hot, interesting, and lez be real, it doesn’t hurt if you look like you might actually send the first message.
“’Look a little crazy huh’ with no punctuation.”
As with so many things in life, the trick to successfully doing this is a combination of confidence, openness, and a willingness to fail or get rejected sometimes — and maybe, if you’re up for it, being the picture of a great butt you want to see in the world.
Your favorite queer Instagram dating account has changed its name to be more inclusive, is creating an app just for you, and is hosting a party in NYC to kickoff its crowdfunding efforts Wednesday night, June 13! Read our interview with creator Kelly Rakowski for all the hot details!
Here’s how to fly your consensually non-monogamous, polyamorous, consensually open relationship or whatever else flag in your dating profile so you get the best possible interactions from it.
We asked Kelly Rakowski of Herstory Personals for some of the tips and tricks she’s gleaned about writing a good personals ad from playing matchmaker to the queer lonely hearts Instagram crowd, and she was happy to oblige.
“It really is a brave new world for single queer people, especially those of us in rural areas, because we can find one another as easily as being able to remember the password you need to download a new app.”
Be who you are just as hard as you can. Also, be on time.
“I was terrified that I was going to receive a bunch of angry phone calls from parents or a visit from the overly religious principal as a result of word getting out that I didn’t fit the heteronormative cookie cutter mold that all of the other teachers at the school did.”
Literally why not.
Take a look at these five new super queer-friendly dating apps and download the one that most floats your boat.
14 opening lines that will have you burning up Tinder (with queer pop culture references!).
In my opinion, a good Tinder profile is more important than good hygiene.
An homage to all the unique ways queer women have marked themselves and dog-whistled each other throughout the decades, the witch bitch switches and the techno hippie hyperdykes from the queer classifieds of the 80s, only this time it’ll be instant and without the anonymity.
“First comes Twitter, then comes Snapchat, then comes texting nudes to a complete and total stranger.” Patty-cake to that one, kiddos.
Figuring out how to use digital spaces is as powerful as living your best queer life, with certainty.