“As a 25 year old, 5’3″ AFAB genderqueer person, with a face that apparently screams ‘possibly a 14 year old unaccompanied minor in this airport??’, it’s important that I look professional enough (especially when I’m teaching) to convey some authority. Any advice you’ve got to help me achieve my goal of being the queer professor crush of everyone’s dreams?”
“The “dapper” butch looks I find when I try to google outfit inspiration don’t really fit my personality. I prefer an edgier, street style-esque sort of look, and I want to carry some of that style over into my workwear.”
This week we find fits for someone looking for a “style reset” that lets them embrace their punk and grunge roots while also not being mistaken for a teenage boy anymore!
“I’m a financial planner specifically serving queer, trans, and polyamorous individuals and families, so I need to dress business-y, but I also want to look queer. I spent the first 20-something years of my life just wearing band t-shirts and chucks, and I would really love to feel more put-together and intentional with my fashion than that.”
Being able to be soft in this world is important for a lot of folks; but also, I think it’s a privilege. And when you exist in a world saying “women look like this” and you do not look like this (and maybe even aren’t a woman), it takes being hard in order to thrive. There is beauty in being hard that way. There is a reason we tell our lovers their haircuts make them look “sharp.”
Warm and handsome outfit ideas for those still too chilly nights.
Once again Sara Ramirez as Kat Sandoval has overwhelmed us. I’m here to help you steal her style.
“Look good and cool while going anywhere” should be the soft butch motto, probably.
I love going to the gym, but finding comfy activewear that also reflects my gender is not easy.
Most of my button-downs come from the men’s section, so they’re not made for busts like mine. Luckily, with practice and perseverance, I’ve figured a few things out.
“There are a lot of butches out there still. More than ever. And in a larger variety than ever. And that is what my project depicts, in style, body, race and gender non-conformity.”
“To me, being masculine-of-center means boyishness, it means blurring gender lines, it means a more vulnerable and delicate form of masculinity. It gives me the freedom to not fulfill expectations based on my assigned gender and body.”
Buying whole new outfits is hard, and expensive — so here are some of the sharpest ties, socks, pocket squares, and other little touches in stores right now.
Masculine of center people are often left out of conversations about skincare, but we all deserve to feel good and comfortable in our skin.
Wildfang just dropped their summer collection, and if you’re in need of swanky suiting or statement tees, you’re in luck.
One morning I woke up and realized I was completely unsatisfied with (almost) my entire closet, and have since been on a journey to find my style-of-center, mixing Goodwill finds with brand-name bits from the sale rack.
“Objectively, aesthetically, I find women’s clothes attractive. Just… on other women. But I’m intensely uncomfortable wearing them. There’s something about the way they’re made that make me feel like I’m on display. And that’s true, isn’t it? Women are always on display because they are always someone else’s property. Everyone else’s property.”
In 2015 we’ve met or got reacquainted with some extremely hot masculine-of-center women or otherwise identified queers. Here’s 10 sexy studs worth swooning over.
The Same Difference takes the lid off of the many boxes that we as a community put ourselves into in respect to gender.
“Who are these men noticing me? Who are these men giving me the long, soft stare, eyes holding mine like they got something for me, something they can’t talk about, something only eyes can pass along. Who are these men whispering ‘hi, papi’ to me? I don’t think I look more male today than I did yesterday.”