Advice Fashion/Style

Find Your Fit: The Queer Academic Who Wants to Be Your Professor Crush

“As a 25 year old, 5’3″ AFAB genderqueer person, with a face that apparently screams ‘possibly a 14 year old unaccompanied minor in this airport??’, it’s important that I look professional enough (especially when I’m teaching) to convey some authority. Any advice you’ve got to help me achieve my goal of being the queer professor crush of everyone’s dreams?”

First Person

A Love Letter to Butch People (That Is Accidentally About My Dad)

Being able to be soft in this world is important for a lot of folks; but also, I think it’s a privilege. And when you exist in a world saying “women look like this” and you do not look like this (and maybe even aren’t a woman), it takes being hard in order to thrive. There is beauty in being hard that way. There is a reason we tell our lovers their haircuts make them look “sharp.”

Fashion/Style First Person

My Superhero Shirt and the Allure of the Unflattering

“Objectively, aesthetically, I find women’s clothes attractive. Just… on other women. But I’m intensely uncomfortable wearing them. There’s something about the way they’re made that make me feel like I’m on display. And that’s true, isn’t it? Women are always on display because they are always someone else’s property. Everyone else’s property.”

First Person

Getting Cruised In the Heights

“Who are these men noticing me? Who are these men giving me the long, soft stare, eyes holding mine like they got something for me, something they can’t talk about, something only eyes can pass along. Who are these men whispering ‘hi, papi’ to me? I don’t think I look more male today than I did yesterday.”