“I hadn’t yet come to terms with being a lesbian, so I also spent a lot of time making excuses not to have sex.”

Today we look at a panoply of questions, which, while the situations of their querents are specific and concrete, encompass three of the most common questions we hear in relation to bisexuality: Am I actually bisexual or not? Am I pansexual or something else within the bi+ spectrum? How the fuck do I let people know I’m not straight?

We can finally settle it: Anissa Pierce is a top! Here’s some hot lesbian sex, tinged with a bit of angst and sadness, coming your way!

It’s LGBTQ History Month, and not a moment too soon! It’s absolutely necessary at this moment in time to remember some of the icons of our collective queer past who have overcome all kinds of adversity to change the world and our individual lives.

I wonder why the story of a bisexual teenage boy is the one that allowed me to explicitly consider my identity as a bisexual adult woman for the first time.

Inside The Black Triangle is a photo series intending to highlight the struggles, joy, heartbreak, confusion, and diverse experiences of queer women living in a heteronormative world, and the artist behind the project is hosting an Autostraddle Meet-Up at Denver Pride this weekend!

We like Cynthia Nixon for the job of New York governor and we think you will too.

Sleepovers suck but you can have a better one, if you must. Also: Ontario’s sex ed curriculum goes back in time, lesbians have better sex, why not to get jaded in your Tinder bio and more.

I bring to you cruising tips and casual sex advice built off the years of skanky queer life experience that have solidified me as one of the leading minds in the highly un-scientific field of “Lezzy Slut-ology.”

As Venus is the planet of relationships, what’s getting exposed this month is what we need to reexamine, reconfigure, and reestablish in our relationships.

Saturn in Capricorn asks us to dig into reality and actually do the work. What will help us create a sustainable future for ourselves and the ones we love? How can we show up and dedicate ourselves to this process?

We have searched high and low (brow) and located all the lesbian and bisexual characters you can expect to find on new and returning television shows this fall.

Queer proms for queer youth, adorable beekeepers, tips for a sand-free vagina, and some queer ASL to add to your rep!

Plus: Another dead lesbian on The Purge, another almost dead lesbian on You, and less murderous updates on Grey’s Anatomy, Star and Fresh Off the Boat!

Mars helps us assert ourselves. It helps us go after what we want. Mars is our individuality. I want. I need. I desire.

Real life worries from readers like you! Including: coming out at any age, getting comfortable with butt sex, and so many questions about moving! Get ready! It’s a party!

Sometimes, on a rare harvest moon when the mermaids sing and the unicorns take flight, we’re treated to really authentic, layered, swoon-worthy portrayals of bisexual women on our favorite shows.

Impress your tattoo artist, confront your braggy woke friend, leave your fiancee, plus two HR questions get answered by a real professional!

Venus is asking your partner to tie your tie, and putting on a garter belt and stockings just as they’re leaving for work to maybe make them stay a few extra minutes, and putting on an old thing they got you ages ago that will make them weepy because oh my god, how do you still have it? Venus is call and response.

Our BIGGEST ADVICE BOX EVER! Highlights include: tips for lesbian sex on an airplane, helping others to use your correct pronouns, how to survive a family holiday, getting over your first high school heartbreak, getting out of an abusive relationship, finding new friends as a queer adult, and dental dams! Just to name a few!