You and your girlfriend don’t have to have sex unless you both want to have sex, no matter how long you’ve been dating. But also if you DO wanna have sex while respecting your history of trauma, here are some tips!

Checking on your ex, being honest with coworkers, being honest with everyone including yourself, and pulling yourself out of a year-long sad thing! Come help give advice!!

It’s nothing new, but that doesn’t mean it’s not dangerous.

Today Trump signed an official directive that prohibits transgender people from joining the military, and additionally gives Defense Secretary Mattis a great deal of latitude in terms of deciding the fate of transgender people already enlisted.

One newspaper asks if queer film festivals are still necessary, another discovers the lesbian psycho killer phenomenon and wonders why we don’t get nice gay man movies. also; Adam Lambert interview, eyeliner 101, The Runaways, girl bands like the Runaways, Ke$ha’s appropriation of Native American culture, Tina Fey, the Lambda Literary Awards and Angelina Jolie.

Whether gaydar is a thing, a new podcast that lets you listen in on couples therapy sessions, trans performers in mainstream porn, and more.

Grammar as privilege, cardboard presses, ranking fictional drugs, disability in sci-fi and fantasy and more.

Only endless WTFery and an inevitable fade to black.

The danger of talking about science as a series of value-neutral truths is that it obscures the human decision making that took place at every stage along the way, as institutions were built up. It implies that the biases held by those decision makers are shared by everyone, and are therefore insignificant.

When I saw the hashtag #DisabledAndCute gaining steam on Twitter last weekend, I felt an immediate tug of recognition. Disabled folks were here, owning our bodies and looks rather than trying to cover up, slink away, or downplay.

Going to the Women’s March on Washington or a solidarity event near you? I have some tips!

“What a strange way to end the year. How strange to talk of personal love, right now, as though we can separate it out from love for everyone who is suffering and endangered. But queer love can and must encompass that—what are we here for if not to create new ways of loving, new communities of care, and a world with less repression and hatred?”

“Part of why I’m coing out is because there’s so much hate and fear in and around the LGBT community right now and it’s important for us not to halt progress out of fear.”

A look at what’s happening with the process of choosing people for the president-elect’s cabinet, and how dangerous they are (very).

141 arrests were made at Standing Rock on Thursday, police in Washington fatally shot a pregnant Native woman during a welfare check, a new lawsuit filed in Utah challenges the state’s “no promo homo” law, two proposed anti-abortion laws in Alabama were blocked by a judge and more news.

Spanking, kink and mental health; the future of sex and technology; what happens to sex as you age (it gets better); forced orgasms and more.

A new study shows women who seek an abortion are pretty certain they want to go through with it, Michelle Obama’s latest speech is fantastic, women protest outside Trump Tower, the ACLU finds social media companies are selling user data to a company used by cops and more news.

These women are running for open seats in elections pitting them against Republicans or are fighting like hell to overthrow incumbent Republicans. That matters!

Let’s celebrate Celebrate Bisexuality Day aka Bi Visibility Day aka the best day of the year with some self love, encouragement and brilliance from these youth.

Everything’s fine but for a moment it was almost not! Life is a highway!! Join me inside for a story about home infestation. (Plus my dog in a wig!)