“everywhere i went i was protected. i was never in the dark. i was alone but i was never really alone because autostraddle was there.”

We have joined with the editors and publishers of Diva, Curve, Lesbians on the Loose, Tagg Magazine, DapperQ and Lez Spread The Word to make a statement on our commitment to trans inclusion, support and advocacy.

“Towards the end of the night you fall and tear the skin on your knee. But you pop back up and keep skating. You’re relieved. Now that you’ve fallen once you know you’ll be okay.”

This Month: Proper protocol for casual sex with strangers, combating internalized fatphobia, lots of trans feelings, and how to apologize when its 100% your fault. Plus, what to do when it’s time to divorce him and come out already!

Critical Role helped me realized that D&D is about storytelling, and that there’s plenty of room for queer people in stories.

Topics include a sneak peek at Killing Eve Season 2, Sabrina’s Lachlan Watson journey “from lesbian to trans to non-binary,” “thank u next” co-writer Victoria Monet on coming out as a queer black woman, a lot of things about The Favourite, Christmas movies ranked by queerness and so much more!

Plus: Gal pals smooching on Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, near queer makeouts on Siren, soft butches in space, Chelsea Handler channeling Bette Porter, and a very sad Shondaland elevator.

Plus: All American continues to showcase some of the best queer storytelling on TV, HTGAWM threatens Tegan’s life, Tig Notatro: Space Butch is back on Star Trek, Siren is getting closer to gay mermaids, and Legacies unburies a gay.

If the ferns in my garden have survived the last few thousand years, then they have witnessed genocide and forced removal, tornadoes, the filling in of wetlands. Our acts of maintenance are political decisions. What we narrate and what we nourish set up the futures we are willing to fight for.

Come to have your life ruined by Gillian Anderson; stay for infectious teen drama laced with a very fun, weirdo sense of humor.

“I don’t really view those choices and connections as mistakes, because anything I did that I overall don’t regret isn’t really a mistake.”

Betty Who’s new music video, bilingual children’s books about gender neutral pronouns, and an Israeli-Palestinian lesbian stand up couple, Hayley Kiyoko’s killer year, and more!

This month, there are some wintry tracks for relaxing and looking out the window at a rainy day, as well as some upbeat stuff for breaking out of the doldrums. And a bunch of stuff in between.

“It’s the urgency of being a girl, in the broadest sense of that admittedly binary term, of being a marginalized person and knowing in your heart that you have the power to change your world.”

Each of us has a story we believe about love—Gemini season asks us to question our expectations and stay open to the strange and wonderful.

Even the most “accessible” queer fashion can feel intimidating when you only see it on celebs – that’s why we’ve assembled real-life queers to show you how real people are wearing wardrobe staples and celeb-inspired fashion. Today: gay boots!

We’ve got gays kissing during parades, bans on conversion therapy, LEGOs, and Scots who love nonbinary babes!

“The way you can bring together Jews from all walks of life to share a holiday together over a meal made with love and a table filled with candles, wine and challah, and we can join together in song and laughter and interruption and feel quickly like family because, well, we are.”

You may be saying, “Alexis, you’re late to the party here,” but gentlepeople I believe I am right on time.

How unfair is it that everyone who gets married and has a wedding shower gets a lot of nice fancy home goods (including a KitchenAid!!!) and I, a boss bitch forever single kitchen witch Capricorn femme queen, do not??