“I feel like people started enacting these borders around it and categorizing it, and that felt so bad and wrong, and the antithesis of everything that it should be. Then, some people also really conflated it with the idea of being genderless or agender, and I’m like, “No…” I feel a lot of gender feelings! I don’t know what they are, or what they mean, but they’re there.”

“Imagine if all of our days were as productive as the people in The L Word. We would be cruising through life.”

Lady gays abound on this week’s episode of Top Chef! Plus updates on: the season finale of This Is Us, Nancy Drew, Charmed, All Rise, and All American. Also, the trailer for the new gay Gossip Girl is here, you know you love us, XOXO.

This week we’ve brought on someone in a gaymous power couple: Grace Lavery! But being in a public relationship isn’t just the joys of ambitious4ambitious. There’s also the matter of boundaries and privacy.

Topics include TikTok, Office Space, the actual office, being bipolar, Amazon, the Disgusting Food Museum, Ghost Ship, facial feminization surgery, gymnastics, the childcare industry and so much more!

If you’ve been missing crying over The Fosters, good news — Stef and Lena are back to remind you it’s not where you come from; it’s where you belong.

Mississippi became the first state to sign this year’s sweep of anti-trans bills into law (and some more readings about what’s coming next), misogynoir nearly killed Meghan Markle, and making it through this terrible sexless year.

Pose has always felt like home; family. So I started this episode in my bedroom, with my roommates who, in true queer tradition, are my family. I thought it was going to feel like it did, two years ago, but it didn’t. I don’t know if it’s the show or me that’s changed, probably both.

Callie and Mariana agree to leave their wacky sister stories at home and work together to try to crack a case at their law firm.

Bed death, wanting to be told you’re beautiful, HOW do you date, dealing with two friends who started dating and more!

We answer questions from A+ members about disclosing PTSD while dating, coping with siblings who judge others for choosing to have children, healthy boundaries with partners, body acceptance and more!

A tribute to Cicely Tyson’s most iconic roles, Harley Quinn season three is a go, celebrating Black LGBTQ+ athletes every day of Black History Month, The Real Housewives’ lesbian problem, and more!

Symone was my favorite because she’s a Capricorn. Now she’s my favorite for so much more.

As we head into the crisp, fresh beginning of 2020 and a new decade, we want to hear about your queerest, wildest dreams for the future. Deadline for submissions is January 31!

I was proudly pro-abortion before I was a mom. I’ve doubled down on that belief after becoming one.

“It will probably be sexy and unhealthy for both of us.”

Alike is a chameleon, disappearing in the light of her surroundings — purple in the club, green on the bus, pink at home — only ever showing you her profile when she’s forced to be less than her authentic self.

This tiny book is a quiet horror story in which beauty is a terror and friendship is an undoing of the self. The final line has haunted me long past reading it.

Mary Lambert is charming as heck in Arlo the Alligator Boy, Netflix’s madcap found family series that’s half-High School Musical / half-Rent.

Plus! Updates on 4400, Nancy Drew, New Amsterdam, NCIS: Hawai’i, and Claws!