Be the cool queer cousin you wished for as a kid, the polite way to turn someone down, sex is still great without an orgasm, creating your own queer community when you feel alone in the world, and 20 other questions from everyday readers like you!

Should you tell your dream school that you’re queer in your college application? What about your future employer? The New York Times got us talking about this so we put together a roundtable and now we wanna know how you feel, too.

Looking for children’s books with queer moms, binding as a cis woman, communications issues in relationships, and more!

We’re talking to Gabby Rivera about her debut novel “Juliet Takes a Breath”! We talk about subtleties in Latinx media representation, queer community, forgiveness and, of course, Lil’ Melvin.

And so we talked all night about the rest of our lives…

“I can’t focus enough to read the cool indigneous women article but I want to read it but I cam’t I had too much drug candy”

The Autostraddle team offers advice on a relationship crisis, dealing with the fact that your ex has moved on quickly, a friend who is less interested in rekindling the friendship than you are, commitment and marriage and more!

We’re back with more questions than ever! And our team is here to give you advice on things like: sexy underwear for masculine-of-center folks, breaking sexual tension with a friend, how to move on from your one true love, how to get out of a professional rut and more!

In which I dive into piles of mostly-confusing data to figure out where the girls are in a country where gayborhoods tend to be filled with boys.

Your mom wants to braid friendship bracelets and you want to disappear into adulthood. Also, we help a reader embrace queer romance novels!

For a myriad of reasons, we all somehow ended up clicking over to this very special place called Autostraddle Dot Com at some pivotal point in our queermo lives, and now we’re all still here making it happen! In this roundtable, our editors and writers share their “root” — the posts that brought them here for the first time.

Drew: Then Kehlani does a little Titanic, which means “putting a hand on the fogged-up glass”—
Riese: It means “causing a ship to hit an iceberg and then sink.”
Drew: Which… metaphorically? You could argue…

Everything from indie movies to docs to romance to horror and more — Tubi’s got lots of queer streaming options!

We’ve finally arrived at a place where we have enough queer characters on TV to fight about them. What a time to be alive!

Documentary films. Policy initiatives. Direct action. These 20 activists are doing it all to save the world — and they’re Autostraddle readers just like you!

Celebrity crushes mean more to queer people than they do to straight people. They can be our first expressions of queer desire or our first expressions of gender envy. They can be a safe place to try out urges that aren’t ready for the real world.

Riese: I would text Riley and be like “you up?”
Carly: Are you still at the gay bar…? Because?
Riese: I would come back incensed with rage and ready to make a mistake.
Carly: Ready to ruin my relationship.
Riese: Yes. I would be full of the spirit of ruin and ready to share it.
Carly: Which is not Christmas spirit, but it is kind of related.

Advice for the cis, presumably het parents of a trans kid, Zoom dating while in the house with your parents, an urban legend and gay panic, gender feelings, squirting ALL of the time, and understanding your expectations in a relationship with someone who is not nearly as out!

This Month: Proper protocol for casual sex with strangers, combating internalized fatphobia, lots of trans feelings, and how to apologize when its 100% your fault. Plus, what to do when it’s time to divorce him and come out already!

Yvonne gets super-real about dealing with a very difficult situation, Aja talks toners, Cee takes a kitten on an airplane, and Laneia, Riese, Rachel and Heather say other things in response to things you said to us and well I don’t know I just think this is a really good one.