NSFW Sunday Is Hacking Sex Toys

Feature of La Muxer Diosa and Mars the Prince in Crash Pad Series episode 238. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are courtesy of the Crash Pad Series. The inclusion of a photograph here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

Cinnamon and Cicatriz in Crash Pad Series episode 169

+ Here are some of the ways that trans women into women can have sex!

+ The teens are all right (at teaching each other sex ed).

+ Nobody knows what the sex bases are. Personally base three is anal, base six is dinner and base 47 is we shower together and I don’t reapply makeup after. No I do not know how to play baseball, why do you ask?

La Muxer Diosa and Mars the Prince in Crash Pad Series episode 238

+ If you pretend you’re over your breakup, you’ll get over your breakup. In a small recent study, a collection of recently dumped participants were “subjected to a hot stimulus on their left forearm” and forced to look at pictures of their ex and of a friend while remembering their breakups, which sucked less when they were told it was supposed to:

“During the process, the participants took a brief break to be given a nasal spray. Half were told it was a ‘powerful analgesic effective in reducing emotional pain,’ while the other half was told it was just saline solution. The participants then went back into the brain-imaging machine. Those in the placebo group were found to feel less pain and feel better emotionally, and their brain responded differently when they saw the picture of their ex.

‘Just the fact that you are doing something for yourself and engaging in something that gives you hope may have an impact,’ study author Leonie Koban said in a statement. ‘Doing anything that you believe will help you feel better will probably help you feel better.'”

Cherry Torn and Lilith Luxe in Crash Pad Series episode 213

+ Anal can feel great — if you have a prostate because duh, and if you have a vagina because it can stimulate the shared anal/vaginal wall, pelvic floor and g-spot. But(t) (sorry) make sure you’re prepared, especially before your first time or with a new partner.

+ “​Cunt is not slang; cunt is the original.”

+ “Nerve Endings is trans erotica in the truest sense of the word: it’s sexually charged fiction that trans people can both pleasure themselves to, and think about late at night afterward,” writes Ana Valens in a review of Nerve Endings: The New Trans Erotic, edited by Tobi Hill-Meyer.

Indigo Bleu and Viceroy in Crash Pad Series episode 175

+ When will queer women get our equivalent to gay men’s Tom of Finland?

+ How do you even meet people outside of dating apps? (Cough cough.)

+ The drunker straight people get, the more they’re into gay sex. Use this knowledge only for good.

+ It’s easy to hack sex toys.

+ People keep weird things from past relationships.

Scout and Lew Pine in Crash Pad Series episode 227

Carolyn Yates is the NSFW Consultant, and was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor, for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She recently moved to Los Angeles from Montreal. Find her on twitter.

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15 Comments

  1. “if you have a prostate because duh, and if you have a vagina because it can stimulate the shared anal/vaginal wall, pelvic floor and g-spot.”

    If you have both, the prostate can be stimulated stimulated from the vagina. Many docs switch over to doing those exams vaginally – they can do a better exam.

    So – one can occasionally go for a trifecta!

      • Up until that article I had always seen cunt as the female equivalent of cock. A strong word full of power and strong (positive) sexual connotations. And that it is used as a slur in our culture because it’s “wrong”/”bad” to attribute power/strength/courage/dominance to women. Which is why pussy is used as an insult to men.

        I’ve never really ever considered it to be an insult and have never used it as such. Personally as a submissive I prefer to use cunt mainly in reference to other people (to further and convey their power and dominant status) and pussy for myself because of the cultural connotations of submissiveness.

        • That’s really good 🙂 I’m really glad you have something that works for you 🙂
          I used to use cunt as an insult before I thought about what words mean, just cos it’s considered the strongest swear word/insult. Then I switched to prick. I’ve since realised that’s an insult to transwomen & amab nb ppl so I use arsehole. Everyone has one and it’s what shit comes out of so it’s good for someone whose shitty opinions come out of their mouth.
          Ugh I come from a family that uses ‘front bum’ to describe vaginas. I think I’ll start using cunt to describe other ppl’s in the right context just due to the respectful nature of it. And it’s another reason to never use cunt as an insult.
          The right words are so important. I’m afab non binary but sex brings out my masculine side. So mine is a cock (just there for thrusting with never to be entered) and my stomach aches are ‘blue balls’ (which I deal with myself as that’s perfectly possible & I’m a feminist rather than a misogynist). I’d use whatever word a partner asked for but ‘cunt’ is good for if the answer to me asking that is ‘whatever you want to call it’ or for reading/writing erotica.
          Lol all this reminds me of when I worked at a super conservative place & was friends with someone from there. Something was crap so I said as much (outside of work) & she stopped talking to me, I asked her why & she said ‘you used the c word’. Wanted so badly to tell her (once I worked it out) ‘honey, that’s not the c word!’

  2. And another benefit of anal is that it’s using a body part that isn’t gendered in mainstream (cis straight normative) discourse. So I wonder if ppl feel less dysphoric using it than other body parts? Between thighs is another gender neutral option of course.
    I get much better sex ed here than I ever did at school. Thanks for that.

    • For me anal is infinitely less dysphoric then contact with the parts I currently have. Specfically because it IS non-gendered. I also pretend that my prostate is actaully my g-spot which helps too.

      Thankfully I will be getting surgery to fix that in about a year tho! =^.^=

  3. ‘Would you like to be a part of our neurological study? We want you to bring a picture of your ex and then recount your breakup in detail while looking at it, and at the same time we burn your forearm with something hot. Cool?’ ….sign me RIGHT up.

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