Feature image of Betty Blac and Kitty Stryker in Crash Pad Series episode 132. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday! Happy end of daylight savings time to anyone in places where that’s a thing.
La Muxer Diosa and Nikki Darling Crash Pad Series episode 269
“[E]very time I go through a breakup, I rediscover a super-power that most single people don’t realize they have: It’s the power to rediscover and reinvent who you are as many times as you want, without having to worry about a partner’s ability or desire to grow and change with you.” Breakups are good for you, writes Vera Papisova at Teen Vogue:
“So, when I see couples, instead of feeling jealous and sad, I think about how much happier those couples would be if they just break up. I can feel their codependency suffocating me. I end up wondering if those people are holding each other back in some way, and if their relationships are expiring, too. Yes, it’s projection, and yes, it’s my favorite defense mechanism. I can’t even listen to most music because I realize how much I don’t want abusive relationships being sold to me as ‘true love.’ Suddenly, I can recognize all the toxic patterns couples fall into and become comfortable with. I realize how many people are settling with someone who makes them miserable just because the alternative is being alone. Sometimes it’s not even projection, but ultimately, it doesn’t matter — it’s never really about them, it’s about me and learning what I want. I’ve discovered that enjoying the periods of your life where you’re alone is a gift, and if you start rebuilding your life after a breakup with the intention to be happy with only yourself, it will come true.”
Golden Curlz and Vivienne Vai in Crash Pad Series episode 273
“[T]o stop replying to someone after a brief interaction on an app is not ghosting and neither is it even breadcrumbing,” writes Hannah Ewens on why you can’t be ghosted on a dating app:
“A quick refresher on ghosting via Wiki: “The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.” Commonly it is accepted that to go on several dates and potentially sleep with someone and stop replying, that is ghosting. Saying hi on a stupid app and then not being bothered to reply to their response, is just… life. […] [C]all ghosting what it is, and don’t diminish the real confusion and hurt that comes from being triple-fucked and thrown in the garbage without a word.”
Valentine and Calico in Crash Pad episode 232
How sensitive you are — or aren’t — to pain has to do with your genes, physical state, environment, and past experiences
Want to get divorced? Why not tell her with cake?
Changing your personality requires action as well as thought.
Oh Joy Sex Toy has a quick guide to breast anatomy.
If you’re honest about watching porn, your relationship is likely to be more satisfying and lower stress.
Aleister Church and Byron Dubois in Crash Pad Series episode 272
Primary care doctors need to do more to fight STIs:
“Because sexually transmitted infections are often asymptomatic, screening is essential. Untreated STDs can lead to serious health problems, such as chronic pain, infertility, or even death.
‘Providers and primary care providers play a crucial role in combating these rising STD rates,’ says Laura Bachmann, chief medical officer for the CDC division of STD prevention. ‘If providers don’t ask the questions and don’t apply the screening recommendations, the majority of STDs will be missed.'”
I MISSED AN OPPORTUNITY FOR CAKE??????
First you marry, then you Marie?
Pretty half baked, Chandra. I expect batter from you.
I gateau keep trying
Marie…Curie? Divorce cake with a half-life.
Cooked on the element
Isotope so.
It’s deciding how to split it after that’s the tricky part.
If your neighborhood particle accelerator can’t handle it you could just try to split it over said Ex’s nose.
Whichever way you slice it, this whole thread is just giving new meaning to let’s get physical on NSFW Sunday.
I egg you all on with floury praise. Shall we milk this for all it’s worth? I chocolate of it up to some of us being pun-obsessed.
The way we’re all running rings around each other in spark-tickle acceleration, a Chuckle-it Pundt cake seems like the appropriate just dessert.
Y’all crack me up.
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Snaelle, even though we are all getting punny and a few laughs about a Divorce Cake I just want to let you know I’m sorry that you’ve encountered a relationship experience in which this cake would have been appropriate.
Relationships are hard but Humor heals sending love and understanding out to ya.
Aw, thanks @Paulala, those thoughts are much appreciated <3
Humor definitely helps, along with self-care, friends and cake.
@queergirl I hope you’ve seen this
“I MISSED AN OPPORTUNITY FOR CAKE??????”
I know ! I didn’t think of that either !
Just desserts I suppose. On the bright side, now we can have our cake and eat it too !
re ghosting: call it what you like, it’s rude and lacks of respect either way, in any context.
Yup, thank you for this
I think a lot of situations could benefit from people learning how to graciously say no, but there are certain contexts where I think this kind of behavior is perfectly acceptable – for example if the other person comes off as inappropriate or creepy.
So who spent their extra hour yesterday enjoying loving company?
I will confess that I spent my extra hour snuggled in bed sound asleep with my favorite snuggle buddy. My little pup Baxter. ??♀️
I probably should have got up and baked a cake.
I spent my extra hour suffering from insomnia, and laying in bed next to my girlfriend keeping our cats occupied so they didn’t wake her. so I’m pretty sure that counts and enjoying loving company.