Into the A+ Advice Box #18: Long-Distance Friendship, a Partner Who’s Afraid She’ll Marry a Man, and More!

Welcome to the 18th edition of Into the A+ Advice Box, in which we answer advice questions from A+ members who submitted their questions into our A+ ask box because they wanted their questions answered in a space that is not accessible by Google, their mom, their ex, etc. (No guarantees regarding your ex, however.) Previously, we have included such questions in our epic Some Answers to Some Questions You Have Been Asking Us, and in most cases that is still the plan. But some questions were a lot longer or more in-depth and deserved their own place in the sun. We’re doing this column TWICE a month, now.

We solicited answers from the whole team, so let’s dive in!

Q1:
My father has narcissistic personality disorder. For context, he and my mother are still married, even with the emotional abuse. Things have gotten less intense over the years, as my mom, sister, and I have all been able to figure out how to have a relationship with him that is tolerable. For me, that means pickin...

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