Welcome to Interviews With My Ex-Girlfriend, in which Autostraddle writers get back in touch with their ex-girlfriends to ask them Five Simple Questions:
How long did we date?
Why did we break up?
What did you learn from our relationship?
What do you miss most about me?
Would you invite me to your wedding (why/why not)?
Dannielle: Before we start... are you wearing three shirts?
Pate: I’m wearing four if you include the jean jacket. It’s cold here!
Dannielle: I’m in Los Angeles where it’s always perfect. Okay. First question: how long did we date?
Pate: We were together for approximately two years I think? Is that wrong?
Dannielle: I always say a year and a half.
Pate: It was from 2007 to 2009.
Danniell...
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