Holigay Gift Guide: Surprises For Your Favorite Stranded Babe

Holigays 2019 Autostraddle

I am getting my top chopped on December 13, so I will be spending Christmas sitting at a 45 degree angle, watching Disney Channel Original Movies and trying to stop my dog from launching herself onto my fragile human body. Surgery means I can’t travel (or lift my arms over my head), and there are of course all sorts of reasons people may feel a little stuck at home for the holigays. Maybe your bestie has a retail job and only gets like 11 hours off to celebrate. Maybe your favorite aunt has a chronic illness or disability that makes traveling a hassle. Maybe your Instagram friendcrush is dealing with family bullshit from a distance. Whatever has your loved one stranded at home this season, perhaps they could use a little holigay cheering up! May this list inspire you to snail mail someone you care about at their permanent address.

​Time For Maximum Coziness

Soft clothes, a warm drink, and the flicker of candles seems like a dream come true when I’m stuck at home and feeling a little blue. Gifts like these will show you care and keep your pal warm and toasty.

Books to pass the time or catch up on the year’s best

1. Dreadnought (Nemesis Book 1) by April Daniels ($15) 2. Trick Mirror by Jia Tolentino ($27) 3. Red, White & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston ($17) 4. In The Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado ($26)

These are all on my personal list, and I have a feeling they might be on the lists of some hot literary queers you know! Whether your loved one prefers to pass the time with a raunchy read, some queer YA, or the a critically acclaimed memoir or essay collection, books make great gifts. It’s science!

Decorations to make home feel like home

1. United By Blue 2020 Calendar ($19.50) 2. All / TheQueer / Art (please share your favorites in the comments!) 3. A cool frame to go with all the art! ($35) 4. A kitschy-as-heck throw pillow ($40)

Help brighten up your giftee’s space so they feel at home even if they would rather be somewhere else. Queer art is the ultimate gift, so please share your favorite artists in the comments!

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Adrian is a writer, a Texan and a Presbyterian pastor. They write about bisexuality, gender, religion, politics, music and a whole lot of feelings at Autostraddle and wherever fine words are sold. They have a dog named after Alison Bechdel. Follow Adrian on Twitter @adrianwhitetx.

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  1. Congrats on your surgery! Sometimes the best presents are the ones we give ourselves. Hope your recovery is quick and complication-free.

  2. I’m historically very bad at image imbedding, so if you could just imagine a gif of the grinch thinking of something he hadn’t before, that’d be great

  3. Just going to unload some further spoonie gift ideas

    Lap desk
    electric heating pad
    reuseableheating pad/bag
    Compression/support socks
    Resuable ice packs

    If you know for a fact they have no food allergies, intolerances or are not a picky eater one, can easily cook stuff of those food subscription boxes things could be cool.

    The heating pad, food box and sock stuff could work great for an abled retail worker on their feet all day, also something for hot baths maybe.

    These folks used to sell heating pads not sure if they still do tho

    It’s run by jewish bi enbies

  4. oh my god i’m ALSO a texan who went to vanderbilt divinity HOPE YOU’RE LOVIN IT

    also this is a good gift guide

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