Jess’s Team Pick: Shiny Happy Gay People on So You’re

Get ready for your new favorite web site.

So You’re EnGAYged features same-sex couples blogging about their wedding-planning experiences, profiles of real gay weddings and engagements, vetted LGBT-friendly vendor listings, and same-sex marriage news. What differentiates from many other wedding resources is that vendors do not pay to be featured on the site; rather, they have to go through a vetting process that ensures their business is actively LGBT-friendly and well-reviewed.

So if you’re planning a shindig of your own and looking for LGBT-friendly photographers, videographers, planners, stylists, catering, venues, officiants or make-up peeps, bookmark this thing right now.

They also feature a great gallery of DIY wedding ideas for those who want to create their own bouquets, wedding favors, invites and decorations.

All together now… awwww.

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  1. It is not healthy for me to look at this website. Be forewarned everyone, it might lead to a bad case of Feeling Sorry For Yourself, or worse, a bad case of I Need to Get Married Right Now.

  2. this is the best thing ever! mainly because its realistic and adorable all in one / real life ! :D

  3. Aaaaah this site is fantastic! So cute. I guess I know what I’m doing today… reading all of these couples’ stories.

  4. So I have a 12 page paper due tomorrow, as well as a final at noon. But that can wait! Hooray for distracting adorableness!!!

  5. Adorrrrbbzzz! Although I’m a little disturbed that three couples have nearly-identical names with their partners.

  6. Excellent. Since my begging for elopement has gone largely ignored, I can now stop freaking out about how the heck I’m supposed to plan a wedding in the middle of the red Midwest (in the tiny speck of blue that is Iowa City).

    Not that I’m complaining… the fact that I’m allowed to get married (at least at the moment) is still a bit of a shock for me.

  7. I became instantly hooked on this website. So many cute dresses! So many engagement photos! I don’t really care about weddings but I love shoes. Beware, some posts are too cute to handle.

    • Why do we even let straight people get married? They almost always waste 50% of their potential wedding-dress-wearers by making them wear suits. It’s just tragic.

  8. You’ve discovered my secret vice: QUEER WEDDING PLANNING. *sigh* It’s true. Whenever I feel down I wind up looking at custom-made rockabilly wedding dresses, ethically-harvested gems, do-it-yourself geek-themed Save The Dates, and discussions on group catering for vegans and omnivores. Never fails. (Beware: it does tend to leave one with a mild case of vest envy after a while.)

  9. I am hooked on this now. I’m still young but I can’t help but to start planning :)

  10. oh god. adorable couples well-photographed. i am going to die of cute. and probably be fired for not working this afternoon but w/e. ENGAYGEMENTS. i have my priorities in line.

  11. I never thought I wanted to get married… until I realized I like girls. Now I want to get married.

    Also, thanks A BUNCH Autostraddle for posting this a day before my french final.

    Maintenant je vais rater mon examen. Dommage. Trop de couples adorables et queer.

    • Same here. I always told people I wasn’t getting married because I didn’t realize there was another option ;)

  12. OMG, so the next few hours of my life are now decided. I cannot get off this website, and I’m losing count of how many times I’ve teared up!

  13. @yodelmachine

    I wish I knew. I wonder if it’ll be on the exam tomorrow?

    “Decrivez les couples queer que vous avez regarde quand vous procrastiniez.”

    HA I would pass SO HARD

  14. This is just proving that gay is still a synonym for happy!!

    Also, my brother just got engaged and I really want to be one of his groomsmen, but his fiancee’s family is kinda traditional so that’s probably a no go :\

    Kinda bums me out.

  15. Alright, this website is hella cute. But when I went to submit my Real Gay Wedding, they wanted me to have “my photographer” submit everything. My photographer was the son of a friend of mine, who was newly out of college and needed a photography gig. He is not a pro. He’s going to be doing my sister-in-law’s wedding, too, but it really isn’t his main business plan. I have to say, I find the focus on “vendors” a little bit classist. I’ve emailed them about the submit issue, and I hope they have some other way we can put up our pictures and story.

  16. OMG cuteness overdose!
    And now I want to hop on a plane to Connecticut and get married

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