Jess’s Team Pick: Shiny Happy Gay People on So You’re

Get ready for your new favorite web site.

So You’re EnGAYged features same-sex couples blogging about their wedding-planning experiences, profiles of real gay weddings and engagements, vetted LGBT-friendly vendor listings, and same-sex marriage news. What differentiates from many other wedding resources is that vendors do not pay to be featured on the site; rather, they have to go through a vetting process that ensures their business is actively LGBT-friendly and well-reviewed.

So if you’re planning a shindig of your own and looking for LGBT-friendly photographers, videographers, planners, stylists, catering, venues, officiants or make-up peeps, bookmark this thing right now.

They also feature a great gallery of DIY wedding ideas for those who want to create their own bouquets, wedding favors, invites and decorations.

All together now… awwww.

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Jess is a pop culture junkie living in New York City. She enjoys endless debates about The L Word, Howard Stern, new techy gadgets, DVR, exploring the labyrinth of the Lesbian Internet, memoirs, working out, sushi, making lists, artsy things, anything Lady Gaga touches, traveling, puppies, and nyc in the fall. Find her on Twitter @jessxnyc or via email.

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  1. It is not healthy for me to look at this website. Be forewarned everyone, it might lead to a bad case of Feeling Sorry For Yourself, or worse, a bad case of I Need to Get Married Right Now.

  2. Excellent. Since my begging for elopement has gone largely ignored, I can now stop freaking out about how the heck I’m supposed to plan a wedding in the middle of the red Midwest (in the tiny speck of blue that is Iowa City).

    Not that I’m complaining… the fact that I’m allowed to get married (at least at the moment) is still a bit of a shock for me.

  3. You’ve discovered my secret vice: QUEER WEDDING PLANNING. *sigh* It’s true. Whenever I feel down I wind up looking at custom-made rockabilly wedding dresses, ethically-harvested gems, do-it-yourself geek-themed Save The Dates, and discussions on group catering for vegans and omnivores. Never fails. (Beware: it does tend to leave one with a mild case of vest envy after a while.)

  4. I never thought I wanted to get married… until I realized I like girls. Now I want to get married.

    Also, thanks A BUNCH Autostraddle for posting this a day before my french final.

    Maintenant je vais rater mon examen. Dommage. Trop de couples adorables et queer.

  5. This is just proving that gay is still a synonym for happy!!

    Also, my brother just got engaged and I really want to be one of his groomsmen, but his fiancee’s family is kinda traditional so that’s probably a no go :\

    Kinda bums me out.

  6. Alright, this website is hella cute. But when I went to submit my Real Gay Wedding, they wanted me to have “my photographer” submit everything. My photographer was the son of a friend of mine, who was newly out of college and needed a photography gig. He is not a pro. He’s going to be doing my sister-in-law’s wedding, too, but it really isn’t his main business plan. I have to say, I find the focus on “vendors” a little bit classist. I’ve emailed them about the submit issue, and I hope they have some other way we can put up our pictures and story.

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