A+ Roundtable: Forgiven but Not Forgotten

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If you live long enough on this earth, inevitably even people you love and trust will end up hurting you or somehow betraying your trust — and so will you to them! That's just something fun to turn over in your brain on a Monday morning. Forgiving someone when they hurt you is often so much harder to do than it sounds, and sometimes impossible — here are the times when we've done it anyway.
Heather Hogan, Senior Editor
When I was 20 years old, my parents got divorced and my dad just... split. It probably seems like that wouldn't be a big deal because I wasn't a kid anymore, but my family is more complicated than that. My mother has narcissistic personality disorder and various untreated addictions and it was obvious to everyone that she was going to manipulate my sister and I into feeling completely responsible for her taking care of her during her inevitable unraveling. And boy did she ever. She went completely berserk in ways I couldn't even have known...

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