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Advice

You Need Help: My Partner’s Pandemic Practices Suck and I Want to Break Up

Transmitting a deadly virus doesn’t exactly say “I love you,” so it makes sense that this particular conflict is bringing up big questions about your relationship.

By Malic White| December 15, 2020 | 7 Comments
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Sex + Relationships

In Pandemic Times, I’m Having a Digital Victorian Gay Romance

COVID-19 turned our relationship long-distance. We’re getting through it with Jane Austen and love letters.

By Shelly Jay Shore| November 11, 2020 | 10 Comments
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First Person Gender

I Stopped Tweezing in Quarantine and Realized I’m Nonbinary

On the 24th day of quarantine, I turned on all of the lamps in my room and took off all my clothes. Then I stood in front of the mirror and stared.

By Rae Nieves| November 10, 2020 | 19 Comments
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Fashion/Style

A Guide to Solo Halloween Costumes for Lesbians in Quarantine

Here are seven easy solo costumes for lesbians in quarantine that will help make this Halloween the best one yet* (*this will not be the case)!!!!

By Allie Rubin| October 30, 2020 | 11 Comments
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Sex + Relationships

Every Opening Line I’ve Received and Sent on Tinder Since the Pandemic Began

“How are you liking all this social distancing? It’s cool that you write for Autostraddle”

By Drew Gregory| October 15, 2020 | 15 Comments
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Fake News

9 Upcoming Quarantine-Centric Romantic Comedies

Jamie is a gorgeous, successful architect. Dana is an event planner who once fell down a flight of stairs. They couldn’t be less alike!

By Allie Rubin| September 14, 2020 | 5 Comments
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Geekery Visual Art

Grease Bats: Gratitude

“What’s the point of podding if I can’t fix your unhappiness?”

By Archie| August 22, 2020 | 4 Comments
Society + Culture

The Four Robots You Meet in Quarantine

One thing that’s been great about quarantine is that everyone has gotten to spend more time with the robots in their life!

By Allie Rubin| July 17, 2020 | 8 Comments
Straddleverse

Autostraddle Is Hosting Our Second Virtual Community Care Week On Instagram & You’re Invited!

Shelter In Our Place 2 launches on Monday and we can’t wait to see you there.

By Vanessa| May 22, 2020 | 12 Comments
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Sex + Relationships

18 Reasons Why You Might Be Breaking Up In Quarantine

11. For some alone time with the sex bench.

By Carolyn Yates| May 12, 2020 | 1 Comment
Advice

Stay Home & Let Go of Loopholes: Community Care During Coronavirus

Your life is not going to feel normal. This is not normal. This is a pandemic. This is life or death. Our only tool is physical distance. We have to use it.

By Vanessa| April 9, 2020 | 14 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Keep Your Relationship Healthy During a Global Crisis

Tips and tricks from a therapist and multiple queer couples about how to keep your communication and boundaries strong.

By Elly Belle| April 9, 2020 | 1 Comment
Straddleverse

You Should Make A Blanket Fort This Weekend

Literally why not?

By Molly| March 27, 2020 | 12 Comments
Straddleverse

Shelter In Our Place: Autostraddle’s Virtual Community Care Week

We made you a week-long virtual hangout space on Instagram because times are very tough. If you’re feeling alone right now, please come Shelter In Our Place for a little while.

By Vanessa| March 23, 2020 | 6 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Surprise, You’re In A Long Distance Relationship Now!

Here’s some advice about how to weather a long distance relationship during a global pandemic, whether you and your babe live in different countries or just a few blocks away.

By Vanessa| March 23, 2020 | 17 Comments
Society + Culture

Everything You Need to Know About Building Your Best Group Chat Life

Let’s chat about group chats.

By Vanessa| March 21, 2020 | 11 Comments
Straddleverse The Resistance

We Have To Take Care of Each Other: Mutual Aid for COVID-19 and Beyond

We don’t know the answers to most of our questions about COVID-19 and this specific moment in history. But we do know this: together, we can take care of each other. We have no other choice.

By Vanessa| March 17, 2020 | 35 Comments

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