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Sex + Relationships

La Boda Jota #4: Loving Another Queer Latina Is A Radical Act

I choose her, always, because she’s my home and my light.

By Yvonne| October 10, 2018 | 30 Comments
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La Boda Jota #3: What’s a Fat Tomboy Femme to Wear on Her Wedding Day?

The first question people asked me when I got engaged was what I was going to wear to the wedding. My impulse reaction was to blurt out, “how the fuck should I know?”

By Yvonne| September 26, 2018 | 20 Comments
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La Boda Jota #2: Wedding Planning Woes

“At the start of every year, I feel an itch to plan and make vision boards and examine my life and my goals. I knew one thing on my 2018 to-do list was certain and it was getting married and having a wedding.”

By Yvonne| September 12, 2018 | 21 Comments
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La Boda Jota #1: We’re Not Gonna Wait ‘Til I’m 28

As I quickly learned from the jump, when two queer Latinas are trying to get married — something that sometimes feels like is unheard of — there’ll be some bumps in the road. 

By Yvonne| August 29, 2018 | 45 Comments

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