Sex + Relationships

18 Reasons Why You Might Be Breaking Up In Quarantine

11. For some alone time with the sex bench.

Vapid Fluff

BREAKING: Cara Delevingne and Ashley Benson Reportedly Split in Quarantine, Love Remains a Lie

But who gets custody of the rescue puppies and the sex bench?!?!?

Advice Sex + Relationships

You Need Help: Will I Ever Get Over My First Ex or Is Closure a Myth

Closure is a choice — often one you have to make on your own. And it’s absolutely okay to not be friends with an ex.

Advice

You Need Help: How Do I Stop Thinking About the Ex Who Cheated on Me?

Betrayal burrows into brains. When cheating comes to light, there’s a tendency to obsess over the minute details. You’ll replay things in your head, wonder how they were able to get away with certain things, and sometimes even be hard on yourself for it.

Advice

You Need Help: Should We Break Up In Quarantine?

Self-isolation is forcing all of us to reflect. Maybe that’s not so bad.

First Person

Courting Loneliness

It was like saving a seat on the bus for someone who routinely happened to never show up. It was like setting the table for someone who decided to eat an hour before coming over for dinner.

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Sex + Relationships

Breakups and Being Alone 101: The Autostraddle Guide To Life After Love

We’ve got advice on breakups and exes, playlists to see you through, unhinged behavior we highly recommend and so much more from the annals of Autostraddle’s achy breaky hearts.

Advice

You Need Help: Why Do I Miss My Terrible Ex?

 When relationships end, we might feel angry or wistful or hurt. Giving ourselves space for all of those feelings is how we bust through the pain and turn it into growth.  

Books Sex + Relationships

24 Quotes From Queer Authors About Heartbreak, Loss and Moving the F*ck On

“I want you to know, if you ever read this, there was a time when I would rather have had you by my side than any one of these words; I would rather have had you by my side than all the blue in the world.”

Sex + Relationships

How to Honestly Tell When It’s Time to Break Up

Sometimes it takes an outside perspective and an objective read on what’s going on to tell whether it’s healthiest to separate — which is why our team is here to tell you from experience when it’s time to go.

Music Sex + Relationships

Why Is It So Damn Hard to Build a Good Lesbian Breakup Playlist?

I don’t want to put any songs on my breakup playlist that any of my exes have used, or are using, to woo their new girlfriends.

Sex + Relationships

The Unique Grief of Ending a BDSM Relationship

Breaking up is hard to do, but what do we know about breakups between Dominant and submissive? This is a personal exploration of how grief settles when the collar comes off.

Sex + Relationships

5 Things to Know About Dating Again After Your Gay Breakup

I’m not saying this summer will necessarily be a Summer of Breakups again — although it’s true there are two eclipses in Cancer season this year, yikes — but if you do find yourself suddenly among our number, I and many others are here to tell you that some semblance of a love life does exist on the other side of breakups, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

First Person

For Your Consideration: Bridges

When everything starts moving too fast, I like to walk on bridges.

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First Person

For Your Consideration: Introduction to Women’s Studies

I didn’t know then that Devon would become one of those women in my life who’s there for good, who I could not text for months and then suddenly dive right back in with. One of those friends who would show up, who would stay.

Food and Drink

For Your Consideration: Eating Seafood With Your Hands

Over the past four years, I fell in love, traveled many places, had my heart broken, unraveled. I also ate a lot of seafood platters. Here are some of them.