You Need Help: Should We Break Up In Quarantine?
Self-isolation is forcing all of us to reflect. Maybe that’s not so bad.
breakups
Courting Loneliness
It was like saving a seat on the bus for someone who routinely happened to never show up. It was like setting the table for someone who decided to eat an hour before coming over for dinner.
Breakups and Being Alone 101: The Autostraddle Guide To Life After Love
We’ve got advice on breakups and exes, playlists to see you through, unhinged behavior we highly recommend and so much more from the annals of Autostraddle’s achy breaky hearts.
How Social Media Fucked Up Lesbian Breakup Culture
Breakups are so often garbage and hard, and managing the social media that surrounds it is just another gross layer that makes them even more garbage and even harder.
You Need Help: Why Do I Miss My Terrible Ex?
When relationships end, we might feel angry or wistful or hurt. Giving ourselves space for all of those feelings is how we bust through the pain and turn it into growth.
24 Quotes From Queer Authors About Heartbreak, Loss and Moving the F*ck On
“I want you to know, if you ever read this, there was a time when I would rather have had you by my side than any one of these words; I would rather have had you by my side than all the blue in the world.”
Why Is It So Damn Hard to Build a Good Lesbian Breakup Playlist?
I don’t want to put any songs on my breakup playlist that any of my exes have used, or are using, to woo their new girlfriends.
The Unique Grief of Ending a BDSM Relationship
Breaking up is hard to do, but what do we know about breakups between Dominant and submissive? This is a personal exploration of how grief settles when the collar comes off.
5 Things to Know About Dating Again After Your Gay Breakup
I’m not saying this summer will necessarily be a Summer of Breakups again — although it’s true there are two eclipses in Cancer season this year, yikes — but if you do find yourself suddenly among our number, I and many others are here to tell you that some semblance of a love life does exist on the other side of breakups, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
For Your Consideration: Bridges
When everything starts moving too fast, I like to walk on bridges.
For Your Consideration: Introduction to Women’s Studies
I didn’t know then that Devon would become one of those women in my life who’s there for good, who I could not text for months and then suddenly dive right back in with. One of those friends who would show up, who would stay.
For Your Consideration: Eating Seafood With Your Hands
Over the past four years, I fell in love, traveled many places, had my heart broken, unraveled. I also ate a lot of seafood platters. Here are some of them.
50 Ways to Leave Your (Lesbian) Lover
12. Sometimes Love Doesn’t Win, Quinn
For Your Consideration: 30 Slightly Unhinged Post-Breakup Activities That Aren’t Actually That Bad
Embrace a little chaos without getting in trouble with your therapist.
For Your Consideration: Asking for Directions
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but it is perfectly fine and legal to ask someone for directions when you are lost.
How To Change Your Hair Dramatically After a Breakup
Seize control of your image! Be hot as a form of revenge! Do it for you! Just feel good about something in a time when it’s so easy to feel bad about everything!
For Your Consideration: Changing Associations After a Breakup
For when wiping the slate completely clean isn’t really an option.
For Your Consideration: Read Your Enemy’s Horoscope
If you are seeking wise, wholesome advice about heartbreak, this is admittedly not the right place to find it today.
How to Handle Being Newly Single at the Holidays
If you’re on team single for the season and not sure how to be okay, read on, make a game plan, and know that the warm fuzzy happy holiday feelings are there for you if you want them.
Intervention
I had “dressed” myself before driving drunk to my mother’s home. I had taken a shower thinking that water would take away the smell; that putting on leggings instead of leggings-that-I-slept-and-drank-in, would make me look like I was wearing clothes; that if I put on mascara I’d look like I had slept through the night and not spent the whole day drinking.