Is it a “friend” coffee or a “date” coffee, unemployed and feeling unmoored, negotiating initiating intimacy in a relationship with two people on the asexual spectrum, you feel like your best friend is making questionable dating decisions, grooming your armpit hair, taking a break from therapy, you’ve never been in a long-term relationship, trying to exist outside of capitalism, possible pelvic floor concerns — and more!

i would also watch an incredible ryan murphy show about this with sarah paulson and jessica lange as the wronged lesbian penguin parents.

Embarrassing stories, sexy stories, funny stories, wholesome stories – we want ’em all!

Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!

“the sex bench is like all the flatware in beauty and the beast collecting dust waiting for somebody to come along and use it to feel purpose / meaning again”

Autostraddle’s giant survey last year showed that queers will make the most of even the tiniest outdoor patches they can get their green-fingered mitts on. It’s time we celebrated the wide open spaces of our rural and suburban queers too, imagining the possibilities for the expanses we inhabit today or dream about tomorrow.

“i love it when middle age white women lose their shit and yell in lengthy monologues, too”

We’ve spent years — our whole lives, sometimes, it seems like — talking about what our community could look like if we weren’t spending all our time and energy on just staying alive, a feeling that queer and trans people know all too well. With your help, we’re excited to find out what thriving looks like. 

We’re here today to talk about dealing with your crush’s pets, and also dealing with your own pets in the context of your crush!

“always happy for the opportunity to turn our community’s collective missteps into content”

“Who’s lain on the floor, realizing they’ve been lied to as they were laid there?”

Here’s how we handle TV that lets us down, the shows we think successfully turned it around, and our ultimate dealbreakers.

“One of the criticisms regularly lobbed against dental dams is the product’s perceived lack of sexiness, that stopping to grab one could kill the mood. Melanie Cristol was fed up. An accomplished consumer product and healthcare attorney at an international law firm based in Los Angeles, there wasn’t anything in her life that hinted she would be the reason for the next evolution in dental dams: Lorals.”

If Paige and Shane have already done the time then they might as well do the crime you know what I mean ladies?

A reader asked for some wedding looks for a person with an androgynous/femme aesthetic that they could wear to a straight family member’s wedding and I immediately asked to make a style guide because getting fancy for grandma while still feeling like myself is one of my favorite things to do.

What are these times in which we live?!

“i feel like one of the best parts of getting older is learning new and surprising things about yourself, like how hot older slytherin women are”

Kate Brown, Oregon’s current governor, has already made a mark in history; she’s one of the few openly bisexual women in public office in the US. This week, she came out as a survivor of domestic violence during a debate with her Republican opponent, Dr. Bud Pierce.

“Drink with nerds and feel good about people calling you mom.”

Who do you think is making the best queer women’s and feminist comics? Make your voice heard!