This post includes an adorable photo of Dhati as a small child, along with some words of wisdom about coming out, not coming out, and crushing on Korean pop stars.

For someone gay whose favorite movie is probably the original Point Break, I can’t believe I had never seen 2002’s Blue Crush. 

What’s the best way to approach dating when you’re looking to co-parent? And is “looking for younger women” one of those ways?

We Were the Universe eschews the conventional grief novel in its horniness, the conventional motherhood novel in its queerness, and even the conventional sex novel in its emphasis on fantasy over reality.

Psychologists can see potential in every patient who is seeking therapy. I can’t look at my marriage without seeing all the ways we could still fix it.

It was L Word Day at the WGA Strike, so Ilene Chaiken announced that “Corporate Greed Killed Jenny.” Also, the 100 most significant political films of all time.

Cocaine Bear has finally hit theaters. Apparently he only terrorizes straight people? But we couldn’t pass up an opportunity to be part of such an important cultural conversation. And so, we have ranked fictional bears by lesbianism. 

“Carson Shaw, indeed!”

Herz might just be the queer miracle of Mobile.

John: Could you imagine you and Dylan just got done cunnaling-ing together, you’re in bed, the California sun is basking on you. And then you turn to Dylan and you’re like, “We have to get up so we can go to Max’s Willy Wonka baby shower.” That’s the thing you interrupt with.

Hunter Harris in GQ, Javicia Leslie in the Los Angeles Times, Lily Singh in the New York Times, and more!

Getting top surgery with my butch identity is no longer some unattainable fantasy. Now the question firmly rests with me: do I want to go ahead with it or not?

At this moment in time with uprisings against anti-Blackness happening in the US and all over the world, it feels urgent to focus on Black authors who are imagining Black futures. Plus, it was Octavia Butler’s birthday on June 22!

‪There is sufficient evidence, both from Lorraine Hansberry’s own hand and from those with whom she interacted socially, that she was a lesbian. But the how of it all — that we have to piece together in fragments‬.

I was proudly pro-abortion before I was a mom. I’ve doubled down on that belief after becoming one.

Who buys a bar and who gets punched in the face and who wears double-denim and who goes to church and who sat on a doll and who wants to reserve the Crystal Ballroom? There’s only one way to find out: reading this recap.

I’m not trying to win you over to my interpretation of the lyrics of any of these songs; but I am inviting you to explore the world within each of them. Looking at songs we love through a trans lens can teach us new things about our gender.

I wouldn’t say I’ve escaped the Cult of Mommy completely. I’ve defined it for myself.

NY Magazine talks to trans photographer and love of our life, Amos Mac. Also; Kate Harding discusses Tasha Fierce’s essay, As Fat As I Wanna Be, more stereotypical junk about Elena Kagan, thoughts on gay parenting, an Iranian lesbian filmmaker is denied asylum, the disgusting practice of ‘corrective rape,’ punk Islam and Harry Potter!

What I’ve learned is that parents and moms especially, even cool radical-minded queer moms, even boss-lady moms with lots of confidence in their own abilities, really can’t escape the “working mom” BS.