Also.Also.Also: Is What You’re Doing Tonight as Cool as Making Custom Queer “Daria” Avatars?

Today I bought a Turkey, soooo… I guess that means the holidays are really happening, huh?

Queer as in F*ck You

Black & Pink, a queer and trans prison abolition advocacy group, is organizing a Holiday Card Campaign for our queer and trans family members who are on the inside this holiday season. I came across the campaign earlier today and when I got to this line in the accompanying “How To” Tool Kit, I completely bawled and lost it:

“Mail Call often happens in public spaces inside. When someone hears their name called by correctional staff during Mail Call, it is a reminder that people on the outside care about them. It also sends a clear message to correctional staff and other incarcerated people that this person has support on the outside and is not forgotten. This is a vital harm reduction strategy for our inside family, especially for our trans and queer siblings.”

So yeah, I will be contributing this year. I hope you do, too.

It’s #TransAwarenessWeek, and we have some excellent content coming up for you. Until then, I enjoyed this thoughtful reminder thread from Raquel Willis for Netflix’s The Most.

Speaking of which, The First Housing Complex Made For and By Trans People Just Opened in Queens. (We’ve covered GLITS before on the site, and I just love this organization so much!)

Saw This, Thought of You

A Daria-style photo of Carmen Phillips as an Avatar. She has brown skin and a large dark brown afro and glasses. She is wearing a red hoodie, with lipstick to match, and reading a book.

That’s me!!!

I have discovered that you can make your own Daria-themed avatar!! It’s so silly and fun! (There’s a bit of Japanese to navigate, but it’s pretty intuitive. I don’t know any of the language and still was able to get around). I had a blast and I hope any other 90s kids/00s teens out there has a great time, too!

Author Kima Jones, the founder of Jack Jones Literary Arts — the famed book publicity company focused on uplifting Black women, women of color, and QTPOC writers — has sold her memoir Butch — it’s scheduled to published in fall 2023, but I’m ready to pre-order my copy immediately!


Carolyn Yates, Autostraddle’s curator of your weekly NSFW roundup, and literally one of the people who taught me how to have queer sex (and probably many of you, too!) — is opening up their talents and you don’t want to miss it.

The Marlins Have Named Kim Ng as Their New General Manager. She Becomes MLB’s First Female and First Asian American GM. I have no proof that Kim Ng is gay (because I honestly haven’t looked into it) — but whenever I’ve seen pictures of her this weekend as people celebrated the news, I found myself wondering… is this human gay?

Thanksgiving is gonna be dicey this year, here’s How To Spend Thanksgiving Alone & Love Every Minute. (Not to brag, but Autostraddle was on this particular beat way back in 2016, truly ahead of our time: How To Be Alone on Thanksgiving)

Political Snacks

How To Help Win the 2 Georgia Senate Runoff Elections. There’s 49 days left and you can make a difference from the same phone or computer you are reading this from, right now!

“It did not seem like they were being malicious. But then after the next, and next…then I really started to feel hurt, because I’m like this has been a national movement.” Congresswoman-Elect Cori Bush Shocked by Republicans Calling Her ‘Breonna’ Because of Her Breonna Taylor Mask.

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Carmen Phillips

Carmen Phillips is Autostraddle's former editor in chief. She began at Autostraddle in 2017 as a freelance team writer and worked her way up through the company, eventually becoming the EIC from 2021-2024. A Black Puerto Rican feminist writer with a PhD in American Studies from New York University, Carmen specializes in writing about Blackness, race, queerness, politics, culture, and the many ways we find community and connection with each other.  During her time at Autostraddle, Carmen focused on pop culture, TV and film reviews, criticism, interviews, and news analysis. She claims many past homes, but left the largest parts of her heart in Detroit, Brooklyn, and Buffalo, NY. And there were several years in her early 20s when she earnestly slept with a copy of James Baldwin’s “Fire Next Time” under her pillow. To reach out, you can find Carmen on Twitter, Instagram, or her website.

Carmen has written 716 articles for us.


  1. Thank you for the Black & Pink info and the Georgia runoff link! Postcards to Voters has an active campaign going for Georgia so I know what I’m up to for the next few nights. :)

  2. Kim Ng is married to a man. Teresa Weatherspoon just became a full time assistant coach for the New Orleans Pelicans so there’s some more good news.

  3. I don’t know Daria, but awww… the misery chick creator is the coolest! All the possibilities to adjust this and that – I did in fact spend my evening with it ;) and Carmen, we do almost look alike :)

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