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Hot for the Holigays: A Holiday Lookbook for Fat Femmes

When the pandemic hit, I suddenly got really into fashion and dressing up. I also gained weight throughout 2019 – 2020, so I needed to upgrade my wardrobe. Though I’m a total grinch, one of my favorite fashion seasons is the holiday season. I love the reds and browns of fall and the metallics of the December holiday season! I love being the sexy one at the holiday party!

Dressing a plus-sized body is hard, especially if you’re a femme. The fashion for us is at once infantilizing and yet bland. Sexy for many plus-sized fashion retailers looks like that little shoulder cut-out they force into a perfectly fine shirt. Or culottes. Or hideous florals. It feels like retailers are stuck in the What Not To Wear era of fashion for fat bodies that includes A-line skirts and items that mask the body instead of accentuating what we love about ourselves. It also is pretty hard to find retailers that make plus-sized clothing above a 3X or a size 22, so I’ve tried to highlight brands that make clothes for bodies that are above a 3X or can make custom pieces tailored to your body. The call for inclusive sizing in fashion is important and necessary!

I often get complimented on my clothing and overall style, and I have a great eye for things that fit me, so I feel qualified to make this list. Here are some looks that will make you the best dressed at your family get-together, your office party, or your solo celebration.


For Thanksgiving, I wanted to present looks that combined all the colors I love from fall. Here are pieces that can be worn throughout the season with staples and some creative, bold numbers. If you plan to celebrate the holiday the traditional way as many people do, you may plan to eat…a lot. So something that fits your body with a little stretch here and there is ideal for comfort.

Hot Looks for the Cold

Outfit A:

Outfit B:

Outfit C:

Outfit D:

December Holiday Season

For the December holiday season, I envisioned things that will keep you warm or make you stand out, because a hoe never gets cold. Whether you’re a jeans and sweater type or a show stopper, these shops will have something for you.


Outfit A:

Outfit B:

Outfit C:

Outfit D:


Outfit A:

Note: This also can be worn with a faux fur bomber jacket in a different color.

Outfit B:

Outfit C:

Outfit D:

Mariah Carey Approved

Some of these brands are more affordable than others, so I’ve tried to find high-end stuff that will last from shops that accept Afterpay or Klarna as an option to split up payments. A lot of these pieces can be mixed and matched, so find the look that works for you!

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Dani Janae is a poet and writer based out of Pittsburgh, PA. When she's not writing love poems for unavailable women, she's watching horror movies, hanging with her tarantula, and eating figs. Follow Dani Janae on Twitter and on Instagram.

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  1. I started sewing right before the lockdown/continued to sew and its been so amazing to get looks that fat fashion would never do, in materials I like. I love this guide because I’m definitely getting inspired for future things I want to make.

    I’m making a sweater with sleeves like the black dress in the thanksgiving outfit A, and I’m so excited. I’m also making a slinky dress in silk/linen and I’m considering sewing on paillettes (big sequins) by hand… but also thats so much work lol.

    The giant pussy bow in Oufit D of Thicccc is really speaking to me, so is the velvet cowl gown. SO much good inspo here!

  2. Oh damn! I want everything under outfit D please!

    I’m just now wearing my newly made woolen skirt, it’s ankle length and sits in the waist, and has massive pockets. When I put it on for the first time without pins etc holding it together I was really surprised at how awesome it looked on my figure, and how much it accentuated my curves. It even looks like I have a butt now, when nature certainly did not provide one. Beforehand I was anxious that it would make me look “frumpy” as a larger person (EU size 44 ish) – but it does not. So if it’s your style, don’t underestimate the joys of long skirts.

    (I’ve not taken it off since this afternoon because it’s so comfortable. I have jeans underneath it. It’s like a wearable blanket. The pockets can hold so many snacks.)

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