NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Thinking About Sex As Essential

Izel the Alpha and Puppy Chulo in Crash Pad Series episode 289. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

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Blair and Megan Reeves

Blair and Megan Reeves in Crash Pad Series episode 279

People are stillllll cruising for sex, inexplicably to many of us, because it’s hard to balance the need for human touch and sexual contact with the need to not put yourself and others at risk of dying horribly. In order to find a better approach to sex in the pandemic, we need to stop shaming people for pursuing it and instead figure out harm reduction and answers to questions like, How can we actually balance desire and risk?:

“If we accept sex as essential, the next step is publicly talking about actual ways people can have safer sexual contact beyond a mere Zoom session, as Kramer suggested. ‘If we can come up with some realistic ways where people can interact face to face that makes sense for them, and where they feel safe, then I think that’s the best way to go.’

He believed that these conversations are already happening amongst friends, but thought it will be necessary to breach the topic on a larger scale. Policymakers and health experts could help the public think about the difference between low and high-risk activities, and help them accept that there are going to be people who take more risks despite the warnings.”

Adina and Saffron

Adina and Saffron in Crash Pad Series episode 303

Capitalism created sexual dysfunction.

You don’t have to douche before anal, but if you personally decide you want to, here’s a guide.

Here’s what’s up with SpongeBob sex memes.

Hey Epiphora reviewed the OhMyG, writing, “it wasn’t all bad times with the OhMyG, but it was mostly bad times, enough bad times to make me fearful whenever I would go to masturbate with it. FEARFUL, you guys. Trepidatious. When I look at this toy, I feel anticipatory, phantom pangs in my vagina. How am I to know whether the next session will be one of the okay ones, or one that will leave me wincing and distressed? I can’t. It’s luck of the draw.” (In case it isn’t obvious, do not buy.)

At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Christina Wong wrote about hentai comics.

Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa

Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa in Crash Pad Series episode 305

Sex workers — especially Black trans women — have long relied on each other for safety, support and community care outside of the police or established legal networks. In conversations about abolition, everyone can learn from sex workers:

“[S]ex workers have developed practices for keeping each other safe and providing mutual aid outside the purview of the state, providing models for addressing public health safety without police. Activists say their knowledge and experience should be centered in conversations around defunding the police, redistributing those resources to communities and dismantling police altogether […]

“In the face of criminalization and whorephobic violence, sex working people have always sought to create our own systems of support and protection outside of the cops, criminal legal processes and societally accepted channels because most sex workers know those systems will never bring justice and have no interest in listening when harm happens,” said Red S., an organizer with a mutual aid organization for sex workers in Chicago and New York City called Support Ho(s)e, in an email.”

Dylan Ryan and T.Pfister

Dylan Ryan and T.Pfister in Crash Pad Series episode 306

Carolyn Yates was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She lives in Los Angeles by way of Montreal and Toronto. Find her on twitter or instagram.

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