Love Letters to Trans People: Part 1

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Delivery! We have love letters, written just for you, from people who love you, purely because you’re you. The holidays can be some of the hardest times of the year for trans people. We hope these love letters from Autostraddle readers and friends help you feel less alone. Some of the letters have accompanying recordings, so you can hear the love through each person’s voice.

If you were touched by these letters, join us in writing a letter of your own—or recording one—and sending it to a trans person you love.

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I will always fight for you, support you, share the joy of your victories, celebrate your uniqueness.

Thank you for being my sisters and brothers, friends and lovers, a huge part of my life to be honest. I will always be in solidarity with you. I will always fight for you, support you, share the joy of your victories, celebrate your uniqueness.

Each of you makes the world a better place and makes me stay in it. You are important. I love you now and always.

— Anna, Ukraine

Listen to Anna’s Letter:

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As someone whose coming out came at the age of 33, I’m familiar with feeling like there’s a person I could have been, a life I could’ve led that’s never felt possible. I want to tell you that it’s never too late to be you, and that the joy that comes with embracing your true self is empowering and uplifting, and you deserve to feel that. You will always have family here. You are not alone. Much love to you xx

— Susie, Bristol UK

Listen to Susie’s Letter:

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Hey, you! Yes, you transgender girl. I’ve been where you are, and survived. Yes, it’s hard. I wish it weren’t, but it is. Those of us who have gone before have done all we can to smooth the road for you, but there will always be bumps and hazards. Just know that you aren’t alone—we are with you. Find us. We are in organizations, on campuses, and on help lines. We wait for you to ask us for help, as we are glad to give it.

We are a special group. We KNOW who and what we are. Not many people can say that. We live as truthfully as we can, and is our Joy. We have a beauty that few others experience.

YOU are special and YOU matter. Be you, and live your best life, helping others as you can.

— Sophie, Pennsylvania

Listen to Sophie’s Letter:

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Every trans person is the universe in action, resplendent with the power of creation. You are the storm and the fire, whole and joyful in yourself. Your kindness changes the world. Your action makes history.

— Arlo

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I have a trans daughter. I am sending love and acceptance to all who need it today and every day. You are enough and exactly who you are supposed to be. You deserve all the good things life has to offer. Xo mom

— Danyale, North Carolina

Every trans person is the universe in action, resplendent with the power of creation.

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xoai pham

Xoài Phạm is a Vietnamese trans person who descends from a long legacy of warriors, healers, and shamans. Her life's work is in dreaming new futures where we are all limitless, and she makes those dreams a reality as a poet, essayist, editor, and collaborative educator. Learn more about her work here: xoai.co. Catch her on Instagram @xoai.pham and on Twitter @xoaiwrites.

xoai has written 22 articles for us.

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