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Into the A+ Advice Box: Should You Be Dating After an Assault?

Editor's Note: The following contains discussion of sexual assault.

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Hi. I'll preface this by saying that I'm already in therapy and on meds. Also, I'm a cis lesbian in my early 40s.

I'm nearly divorced and thought I could date aro...

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Dani Janae is a poet and writer based out of Pittsburgh, PA. When she's not writing love poems for unavailable women, she's watching horror movies, hanging with her tarantula, and eating figs. Follow Dani Janae on Twitter and on Instagram.

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