Interview With My “Ex-Girlfriend”: “Jo”

Welcome to Interviews With My Ex-Girlfriend in which Autostraddle writers get back in touch with their ex-girlfriends to ask them Five Simple Questions:

How long did we date?
Why did we break up?
What did you learn from our relationship?
What do you miss most about me?
Would you invite me to your wedding (why/why not)?

Once upon a time, I was just a lesbian who didn't know she was a lesbian but was lesbian-ing all around the rural Georgia stomping grounds of my youth with an intensity usually reserved for dying black holes. One such experience of lesbian-ing was falling in love with my gal pal from college and hating her boyfriend and acting generally bonkers in every way imaginable. But that was a long time ago and both me and my gal pal have grown up and come out and she even agreed to sit down with me to relive the way we burned up so hard and bright so long ago.

Pre-iPhone life

Jo: Hello, Heather Hogan!

Heather: Hello… can I call you by your full ...

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Heather Hogan

Heather Hogan is an Autostraddle senior editor who lives in New York City with her wife, Stacy, and their cackle of rescued pets. She's a member of the Television Critics Association, the Gay and Lesbian Entertainment Critics Association, and a Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer critic. You can also find her on Twitter, and Instagram.

Heather has written 1287 articles for us.