Coming Out

Resources and advice on coming out gay, lesbian, queer, bisexual, trans, non-binary and/or nothing at all! Essays and how-tos on coming out to yourself, figuring out your identity and more.

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‘Am I Queer or Just Repulsed by Straight Norms?’

There is no such thing as being queer “enough.” There is just being queer.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Oct 7, 2025

A collage of cut out images from famous TV coming out scenes, in front of a blurred tv background, left to right: Robin from Stranger Things, Denise from Master of None, Santana from Glee, Naomi from Skins, and Elena Alvarez from One Day at a Time

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The Coming Out Scenes We’ll Never Forget

“I doubt that Santana was written from the jump with the intention to make her a lesbian, but sometimes that’s what a coming out journey feels like — like you’re…

The TV Team

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Oct 11, 2022

a woman stands in front of the sun rising over the mountains, contemplating her future

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You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?

It is not too late for you! Every day, we wake up and make our lives anew. What do you want your life to be today?

Darcy

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Oct 11, 2022

A frustrated young woman standing in front of her closet, hands on her head, looking at a bunch of outfits and not knowing which one to pick.

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You Need Help: I Can’t Figure Out What I Should Wear and Who I Should Date

You don’t need to have one particular vibe, type, or style. You don’t have to have it all figured out now, next week, or next year.

Em Win

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Mar 15, 2022

young woman with curly hair leans against a city wall and looks up at the sky, deep in thought

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You Need Help: Will I Ever Grow Out Of The Messy Questioning Phase?

Accept the messy questioning phase. It’s the whole point of being alive.

Vanessa

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Dec 28, 2021

A south asian person with long her and a baggy jacket is frustrated with their hands on their head

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You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?

I am not of the belief that “everyone should come out in order to live their best lives,” but I do want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it is to…

himani

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Oct 12, 2021

Hayley Kiyoko, a Disney Channel Star who came out as gay, guest stars on Wizards of Waverly Place, placed next to the photo an adult Kiyoko performs on a stage with rainbow smoke around her.

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Happy Coming Out Day! All Disney Stars Are Gay Now, We Don’t Make the Rules

It’s modern gay lore that if you were once a star on the Disney Channel, you’re gay now. And for this National Coming Out Day, we wanted to know the…

Analyssa

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Oct 11, 2021

A graph titled "EVIDENCE" ft. three blue circles in a diagonal line. The two outer circles are orbiting the larger one, along a dotted line circle. The center circle says "I think I'm gay" in quotes. The outer two circles say "thoughts i have when kissing guys" and "thoughts i have when kissing girls".

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I Came Out to My Parents Using a Slide Show, And So Can You!

The best use of a graphic design degree is a gay animated slide deck.

Amelia Som de Cerff

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Jul 22, 2021

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Am I A Lesbian? The Lesbian Masterdoc Is a Popular Source of Answers To This Elusive Question

“The Lesbian Masterdoc” has been making the online rounds since 2018, helping questioning people sort through their experiences with compulsory heterosexuality.

Riese

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Mar 23, 2021

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Coming Out

‘Am I Queer or Just Repulsed by Straight Norms?’

The Coming Out Scenes We’ll Never Forget

You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?

You Need Help: I Can’t Figure Out What I Should Wear and Who I Should Date

You Need Help: Will I Ever Grow Out Of The Messy Questioning Phase?

You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?

Happy Coming Out Day! All Disney Stars Are Gay Now, We Don’t Make the Rules

I Came Out to My Parents Using a Slide Show, And So Can You!

Am I A Lesbian? The Lesbian Masterdoc Is a Popular Source of Answers To This Elusive Question

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