VIDEO: Ari Fitz Wants to Help You Get Dressed Like a Tomboy for Prom

Carmen’s Team Pick:

Ari Fitz — reality television star, future first-time A-Camper, and probably your own personal fashion icon — has spent a good chunk of the last two years documenting fashion that blurs the lines of gender expectations with her ongoing webseries TOMBOYISH. Those videos help make tomboy fashion, style, and life accessible to the big, bad world, and have helped many of us get dressed more than once.

But what you wear out into the world is one thing, and what you wear into your prom hall is a very different one.

And thus, PROMBOYISH is here. Ari is saving the day with a two-part miniseries to affirm and inspire the prom-going amongst us to live their best lives and find something for prom that actually fits (both literally and also in your heart space).

In part one, Ari gets gussied up and picks out the outfit she’d wear to prom if her prom were to happen now, and not then. She also has a very cute prom date and braids their hair. Ari’s re-envisioning of prom looks a lot better than my proms, of which there were three, thank you for asking.

In part two, which exploded onto the internet this morning, Ari asks four tomboys to take on the same task. What would they wear to prom if they were going to prom right here right now? The answer is, once again, something much better than the stuff Carmen wore to prom three separate times.

Good luck out there, kids. May prom season dress you well.

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Carmen spent six years with Autostraddle, most recently as Community Director, Feminism Editor and Social Media Co-Director. She is now the Managing Digital Editor at Ms. , host of Bitch Media's POPAGANDA podcast and Contributing Editor and co-founder of Argot magazine. Her words have also been published by BuzzFeed, ElixHER, Everyday Feminism, Girlboss, Mic, MEL, and Feministing, among others. Her successful work over the last decade in digital feminism—as a writer, social media maven and activist leader—has earned her the titles of "digital native," "intimidating to some," and "vapid and uninteresting." Everything else you need to know about her you can find out at

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  1. I love this!
    My school didn’t have prom, but I AM hopefully graduating this summer (which isn’t really similar, but both do involve formal dress, at least?) and have been trying to find a way I can wear a suit without feeling like a small boy who stole their Dad’s.

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