Why I’m Saying No To Playing (and Attending) NYC Pride™ This Year
I was waiting for the other shoe to drop, and it did: “I am hoping to fill the stage with artists who are willing to donate 20 minute sets.”
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Feelings Rookie: New Year, New You?
I refuse to make a New Year’s resolution. I can’t buy into that idea anymore, because I know it only sets me up for failure.
Jael From America’s Next Top Model Is Sober, Reflective, Also A Lesbian Apparently
ANTM contestants Jael Strauss and Renee Alway have been in the closet all this time, says Jael.
The Autostraddle Guide To Queer Mental Health
An epically organized guide to some of our best work on topics including depression, anxiety, grief, eating disorders, substance abuse and other legitimately important topics.
Sober in the City: Top 10 Iced Teas for National Iced Tea Month!
I say, “Hear, hear!” to iced tea and present to the National Iced Tea Month goddesses 10 delightfully delicious iced teas to try.
Sober in the City: Adventures in Sober Dating
“I could not wrap my head around having to jump back into the dating scene – sober no less. Where would I find suitable dating candidates? How do I “come out” as sober? It’s bad enough that the queer dating pool is incredibly small. Now, I had to contend with the fact that some people would be averse to dating a sober recovering addict.”
Sober in the City: Sobriety as a Form of QPOC Empowerment
I relish that I am out in the streets with my community protesting inequality, instead of hiding from it under my sheets with a hangover.
Sober in the City: Holiday Mocktail and Hors d’oeuvre Pairings
I no longer default to the routine pairing of food with wine. Instead, I can really think about complex food and drink pairings that are layered and interesting.
Sober in the City: Indulge in These 20 Hot Chocolate Variations
The holiday season is the perfect time to indulge in decedent non-alcoholic hot chocolate concoctions that will put your co-workers’ spiked eggnog to shame.
Sober in the City: A Feminist Walks into AA
“If a group I was attending was still printing, distributing, and teaching from a book that was blatantly racist or homophobic, I would get up and leave and/or advocate for change. I do not give special passes for misogyny and sexism, especially in my sobriety, because my self-worth is so integral to my complete recovery.”
Sober in the City: Wake and Shake with Morning Gloryville’s Sober Raves
The party starts at 6:30 am and ends at 10:30 am.
Sober in the City: An Atheist Walks into AA
“The fellowship said I was thinking too hard about it, that I was stubborn, and that I was not willing to admit that there were forces bigger than me. What they didn’t get was that I did believe there were forces beyond my control, powers bigger than me. Let’s just take gravity as one of many examples. I just don’t believe that praying to gravity or the radiator or the ocean would cure me of my alcoholism.”
Sober in the City: How to Brunch Like a Sober Boss
It also turns out that I’m a foodie and love brunching sober because I get to focus and spend more money on the actual food! (Pizza and Oreos are NOT theeeeee best combination of food I’ve eeeeeeever eaten. That was the vodka talking.)
Sober in the City: The Life-Changing Day My Addict Partner Left Me
“On one hand, she said she fully supported my path to recovery, but in the same breath she would ask me provoking questions like ‘When is fun Ginger going to come back?’ in response to me choosing not to drink.”
Beaches Over Bars: I Skipped NYC Pride and Found Something Else To Be Proud Of
“I used to go to The Pride March every year, starting at age fifteen. I don’t remember exactly how old I was when I started to become disillusioned with it, but I do remember why.”
Breaking the Habit: Exes, Past and Future
“And so, we raced, each of us more reckless than the other, a bad combination. A mutual friend once said to me; “The problem with the two of you is that there’s no one to say no.” There was no regulatory mechanism. We ignored the scientists who had intimated that all living things, systems, required balance.”
Sober in the City: 20 Summer Mocktail Recipes to Try Now
“With summer here, I do not have to forgo the act of social drinking. But, I can forgo the hangover, the shame, the guilt, and the regret. Here are 20 summer mocktail recipes to try now, sober or not.”
Sober in the City: Surviving Pride Without Liquor
Here are some tools I employ to protect my sobriety while still allowing me to participate in all of the fun. If you’re concerned about being a sober queer at Pride this year, some of these tools may come in handy.
Sober in the City: Redefining My Queerness On Fire Island
Other than partying, what did we like, what were we good at, what defined us? One area that many LGBTQ individuals, including myself, struggled with was redefining what it meant to be queer. But, if being queer was synonymous with getting drunk, then how would I ever be able to define myself as anything other than a drunk?
On Sobriety, Recovery and the Art of Not Dating
“My sobriety buddies warned me that if I violated the ban on dating before I was ready, I might be pushed into a relapse. Instead, I’ve just been pushed into never wanting to date again.”