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Sarai says, "I'm just happy not to be a Dildosaurus Rex anymore."
Geekery

Foolish Child #87: Dildosaurus Rex

“Actually, I know all 100 species of dinosaur and that is not one of them.”

By Dickens| December 30, 2020 | 6 Comments
Two hand drawn dinosaurs are asking, why are they in fact dinosaurs? A baby Dino sits on one of their backs making cute noises.
Geekery Visual Art

Foolish Child #86: Dinosaurs

This child wouldn’t allow me to draw in peace unless I was drawing dinosaurs. It’s fine — I’ll just say something queer and relatable.

By Dickens| December 16, 2020 | 20 Comments
Youth + Family

We’re Stressed the F*ck Out: Practical Tips for Queer Parents in the Pandemic

Parenting during the pandemic is a wild ride, so consider this our queer parenting circle, a safe place to share the good and the bad!

By KaeLyn| May 16, 2020 | 25 Comments
Youth + Family

You Need Help: How Do I Explain Our Sperm Donor to a Five-Year-Old?

This is going to go great, I swear! Here are six tips to get you started.

By KaeLyn| May 5, 2020 | 18 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: How Being a Mom Changed My Mind About Abortion

I was proudly pro-abortion before I was a mom. I’ve doubled down on that belief after becoming one.

By KaeLyn| January 25, 2020 | 11 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Happy Holigays Are Here Again

Remi saved the holidays!

By KaeLyn| December 28, 2019 | 9 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: You Can Always Have a Hug

I want Remi to know that I’m here for her while also cultivating her skills for independence.

By KaeLyn| November 30, 2019 | 14 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: What Lies Between Us

“Do you feel like we’re drifting apart?” I asked.

By KaeLyn| November 2, 2019 | 23 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: The Art of Having A Good Time

Everything my toddler taught me about prioritizing play.

By KaeLyn| October 5, 2019 | 16 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: My Mommy Style Profile

I wouldn’t say I’ve escaped the Cult of Mommy completely. I’ve defined it for myself.

By KaeLyn| September 7, 2019 | 4 Comments
Youth + Family

How These Lesbian Couples Decided to Get Pregnant

For queer couples, deciding to get pregnant often involves a lot of planning, money, and time.

By Kayla| August 22, 2019 | 6 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Mommies, Daddies, and Babies

There are no right or wrong answers in queer and trans parenting choices, just the decisions we make.

By KaeLyn| August 10, 2019 | 19 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Goodbye Pull-Ups, Hello Three, Hello Love

“You have to wear pants to go outside.”

By KaeLyn| July 13, 2019 | 30 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Airplanes, A-Camp and Abdominal Pain

Even though I didn’t get to experience A-Camp in the traditionally transformative way, I got an even deeper peek into the ways that this community is both very real and deeply caring.

By KaeLyn| June 15, 2019 | 30 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: That All-Consuming Love

I didn’t understand unconditional love until I met Remi.

By KaeLyn| May 18, 2019 | 26 Comments
Issues

My Diné Child Will Hunt, Bead and Everything in Between

“You girls are the talk of the ice-fishing derby!” I get that a lot. When we’re out hunting or fishing, my wife and I are frequently the only women (much less queer women) present.

By Nellis| May 13, 2019 | 9 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Having It All Is a Big, Heteronormative Lie

What I’ve learned is that parents and moms especially, even cool radical-minded queer moms, even boss-lady moms with lots of confidence in their own abilities, really can’t escape the “working mom” BS.

By KaeLyn| April 20, 2019 | 13 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Potty Training, Patience and Pride

It’s literally a social science experiment every day and we don’t have any control. That’s how it is with toddlers, I guess…

By KaeLyn| March 23, 2019 | 22 Comments
Issues

A Tale of Two Mommies (Or Who Wore the Maternity Pants?)

“She would have loved to carry our child. Would have met the body changes with joy. That she was physically barred from being pregnant did not make the situation easier. She hid it well. But now I understood why she looked forward to the birth with such clear-eyed intensity.”

By Christina Emmons| March 12, 2019 | 21 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Club Fawn, No Naps, and Reclaiming Procreation

Reclaiming queer procreation, dropping the last nap, stupid crows, Baby T. at A-Camp, and losta cute T. Rex pics.

By KaeLyn| February 23, 2019 | 39 Comments
Books Youth + Family

What to Read When You’re Queer and Expecting: 6 Parenting Books That Smash The Patriarchy

Unfortunately, most parenting books weren’t written with queer moms, trans dads, non-binary parents and gestational carriers, and families that look like ours in mind.

By KaeLyn| January 29, 2019 | 19 Comments
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