Raising Baby T. Rex: How Being a Mom Changed My Mind About Abortion
I was proudly pro-abortion before I was a mom. I’ve doubled down on that belief after becoming one.
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Raising Baby T. Rex: Happy Holigays Are Here Again
Remi saved the holidays!
Raising Baby T. Rex: You Can Always Have a Hug
I want Remi to know that I’m here for her while also cultivating her skills for independence.
Raising Baby T. Rex: What Lies Between Us
“Do you feel like we’re drifting apart?” I asked.
Raising Baby T. Rex: The Art of Having A Good Time
Everything my toddler taught me about prioritizing play.
Raising Baby T. Rex: My Mommy Style Profile
I wouldn’t say I’ve escaped the Cult of Mommy completely. I’ve defined it for myself.
How These Lesbian Couples Decided to Get Pregnant
For queer couples, deciding to get pregnant often involves a lot of planning, money, and time.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Mommies, Daddies, and Babies
There are no right or wrong answers in queer and trans parenting choices, just the decisions we make.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Goodbye Pull-Ups, Hello Three, Hello Love
“You have to wear pants to go outside.”
Raising Baby T. Rex: Airplanes, A-Camp and Abdominal Pain
Even though I didn’t get to experience A-Camp in the traditionally transformative way, I got an even deeper peek into the ways that this community is both very real and deeply caring.
Raising Baby T. Rex: That All-Consuming Love
I didn’t understand unconditional love until I met Remi.
My Diné Child Will Hunt, Bead and Everything in Between
“You girls are the talk of the ice-fishing derby!” I get that a lot. When we’re out hunting or fishing, my wife and I are frequently the only women (much less queer women) present.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Having It All Is a Big, Heteronormative Lie
What I’ve learned is that parents and moms especially, even cool radical-minded queer moms, even boss-lady moms with lots of confidence in their own abilities, really can’t escape the “working mom” BS.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Potty Training, Patience and Pride
It’s literally a social science experiment every day and we don’t have any control. That’s how it is with toddlers, I guess…
A Tale of Two Mommies (Or Who Wore the Maternity Pants?)
“She would have loved to carry our child. Would have met the body changes with joy. That she was physically barred from being pregnant did not make the situation easier. She hid it well. But now I understood why she looked forward to the birth with such clear-eyed intensity.”
Raising Baby T. Rex: Club Fawn, No Naps, and Reclaiming Procreation
Reclaiming queer procreation, dropping the last nap, stupid crows, Baby T. at A-Camp, and losta cute T. Rex pics.
What to Read When You’re Queer and Expecting: 6 Parenting Books That Smash The Patriarchy
Unfortunately, most parenting books weren’t written with queer moms, trans dads, non-binary parents and gestational carriers, and families that look like ours in mind.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Dinos Resist! A Guide to Raising a Little Activist
“What I’m saying is, if you’re sitting in the legislative chamber trying to hear the floor debate and someone’s kid starts crying or yelling “Baby Shark!” please be kind to them.”
Like the Other Kids
On top of how hard it is to be transgender in a cissexist world, it’s also really hard to be a child. It can be hard to have two moms in a heterosexist world. It can be hard to have a transgender mom. Put that all together, and I’m just one giant ball of anxiety who is frequently at a loss for the perfect way to help my child navigate the world.
“Just Treat Me Like Any Other Mother”: What Queer-Affirming Doulas Can Provide New LGBT Parents
For queer couples already facing marginalization in their lives and relationship before making the decision to become pregnant, the presence of a doula can be profound.