Feelings about feelings: How do they work and why are they so awful?
When the election results came in, it had already been a month since I gave up on trying to fix my own mental health issues. And so it turned out that the worst day of our generation collided with my own personal low.
Hope is light, hope is all that is good, hope is what keeps humans alive when all other circumstances say they should be dead. So why was I so afraid of this life-giving feeling?
Coping is a huge part of our lives and we all have our schemes, whether they’re conscious or not. In this particularly troubling time, it’s more important than ever.
This is about what we as individuals can tolerate comfortably before we’re pushed into emotional discomfort. We try to live in this comfort zone, but that’s impossible, because we’re human beings and rarely fit in any sort of box until we’re dead and literally lying in one.
GBBO hot takes, grief, Leslie Jones, DAPL update, gay lotería, Eileen Myles, Suicide Kale is a big fucking deal, Chely Wright, LGBT-friendly cities, Hannah Hart, and so much more!
Clinton’s new plan calls for prioritizing mental health care and putting it on par with physical health care when it comes to access or quality of treatment. For LGBT people, who are more likely to suffer from mental illness compared to straight people, this is a really hopeful announcement.
It’s almost impossible to master while grieving. When that grief turns into a depression, is it even M/s anymore?
What’s a compassionate queer to do when an insecure friend starts to make the whole group miserable?
I’ve worked hard to hold onto my independence, and here I was giving it up — to someone more dominant and more masculine. My feminist ancestors didn’t burn their bras for this. Except what if they did?
The snakes have boobs! The weird bird people have butts! The horse uses the mountains as a blanket! The video for “Hang On to the Night” has it all!
Stranger Things Fan Club meeting, ugly produce, Sesame Street, death is stupid, missing white girl syndrome, have you heard about lesbian bars though, Steven Universe, queer punk jamz and so much more!
Get in here and tell me about your brain, your favorite Harry Potter character, or that weird thing that happened this week! It’s gonna be fun I swear.
Super bummer songs: a way to externalize how shitty you feel without having to use your words!
It’s not just about making your home space spiffy, it’s about doing things that are going to make you feel good on the inside after winter has beaten you into a sad, unmotivated pulp.
“As an adult, I wrestle with the stupid irony of having watched my grandmother live out her Alzheimer’s and not remembering anything about it.”
“Gatekeeping. You see that in Arizona over and over again. That’s why we’re 50th in the nation for disability funding, 50th for mental health funding.”
“I’ve got anxiety, and lots of it. When my grandma sends me a Facebook message asking me to call home, I know everyone I love is dead. I know at least three serial killers live under my bed.”
“I’ve come to believe that my one wild and precious life will never be full if I don’t aggressively dismantle my childhood hardwiring, if I don’t ask the people who love me most to give me what I need.”
Like, I think about buying a coffee and then am like “no no self, you can’t do that – you would need to speak to a person.”
This week, it’s a cartoon. Next week, maybe I’ll write you a poem in the sky from inside a hot air balloon! Or, you know, just use my words. It’ll be an adventure. Me, you, and my Philips GoLITE BLU Energy Light, slogging through the snow and sunless days together.