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Oh Duck: The Autocorrect Adds You Need for Better Queer Sexting

A spectre is haunting queer sexting — the spectre of “duck.” Here’s how to fix your autocorrect and what to add to your dictionary for better queer sexting.

By Carolyn Yates| August 25, 2020 | 2 Comments

How to Have Lesbian Sex For the First Time

This is how we do it, it’s Sunday night and I’m feeling right, the party is here on the Lez Side.

By the team| November 13, 2019 | 249 Comments

Shibari 101: Hogtie

Here’s how to put a few basic shibari ties together so you can hogtie your rope bottom!

By cee| May 31, 2018 | 3 Comments

Shibari 101: Leg Tie

Here’s how to do a basic shibari leg tie for beginners!

By cee| May 24, 2018 | 5 Comments

Shibari 101: Basic Chest Harness

Here’s how to make a basic shibari chest harness!

By cee| May 17, 2018 | 6 Comments

Shibari 101: Single- and Double-Column Ties

Single-column and double-column ties are the foundation for more complicated shibari ties, and they’re also fun on their own! Here’s how to get started.

By cee| May 10, 2018 | 5 Comments

How to Have Lesbian Sex With a Trans Woman

Sex between someone with a penis and someone with a vagina gets a lot of representation, but not when the penis-haver is a woman. Here’s everything you need to know about lesbian sex with trans women who have penises.

By Mey| May 8, 2018 | 80 Comments

Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage

Welcome to Shibari 101, your chance to learn the building blocks of Japanese rope bondage! Today, we’re talking about history, basics and safety.

By cee| May 3, 2018 | 8 Comments

How to Masturbate Like a Champ

May is Masturbation Month! Here’s your guide to doing you as only you can.

By Carolyn Yates| May 1, 2018 | 5 Comments

Why Lesbian Shower Sex Is Like Dante’s Inferno (And How to Make It Suck Less)

Everything you need to know about how to have lesbian shower sex, including positions, tips, how to avoid falling into the ninth circle of Dante’s Inferno and more.

By Carolyn Yates| April 24, 2018 | 7 Comments

How to Soundproof for Kinky Sex

If you want to make your sex or kink life a little quieter and a little more soundproof, here’s what you can try on your own.

By Carolyn Yates| April 10, 2018 | 4 Comments

How to Bring Butt Plugs Into Your Lesbian Sex Life

Regardless of gender and sexuality, everybody’s got a butt. Here’s how to try butt plugs for the first time, how to add butt plugs to lesbian sex, and how to find the butt plug that’s right for you.

By Carolyn Yates| April 3, 2018 | 5 Comments

10 Tips For Better Lesbian Sexting

Here’s how to take your sexting to the next level, including what to say, how to say it, how to give good sext and more.

By Carolyn Yates| March 27, 2018 | 12 Comments

How To Eat Ass

Everyone has an ass. Here’s how to eat one.

By Carolyn Yates| March 13, 2018 | 11 Comments

How To Have A Lesbian Threesome

Planning your first threesome? Here’s how to do it.

By Carolyn Yates| February 20, 2018 | 30 Comments

How To Have Lesbian Period Sex

Here’s how to live your patriarchy-smashing lesbian period sex vampire dreams.

By Carolyn Yates| February 13, 2018 | 9 Comments

Lesbian Fisting 101

Fisting is my number one favorite penetrative queer lesbian sex move. Fisting is AWESOME. Here’s how to do it right.

By Carolyn Yates| February 6, 2018 | 26 Comments
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How To Give (Or Get) a Strap-On Blow Job

Strap-on blow jobs are subversive and super hot. Learn how to give or get one right here.

By Carolyn Yates| January 23, 2018 | 19 Comments
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What Are Dental Dams, and How Do They Work?

Why dental dams are the safer sex tool no one gives a shit about, and why it’s time to start.

By Carolyn Yates| January 9, 2018 | 22 Comments

9 Sex-Life-Changing Tips From “Girl Sex 101”

If you only plan to read one book about sex, ever, make it Girl Sex 101.

By Carolyn Yates| October 22, 2015 | 20 Comments

You Need Help: You’re Vanilla And Your Partner Is Kinky

How to explore kinky sex with a kinky partner when you have no experience whatsoever.

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