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Oh Duck: The Autocorrect Adds You Need for Better Queer Sexting

A spectre is haunting queer sexting — the spectre of “duck.” Here’s how to fix your autocorrect and what to add to your dictionary for better queer sexting.

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Shibari 101: Hogtie

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How to Masturbate Like a Champ

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Everything you need to know about how to have lesbian shower sex, including positions, tips, how to avoid falling into the ninth circle of Dante’s Inferno and more.

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If you want to make your sex or kink life a little quieter and a little more soundproof, here’s what you can try on your own.

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How to Bring Butt Plugs Into Your Lesbian Sex Life

Regardless of gender and sexuality, everybody’s got a butt. Here’s how to try butt plugs for the first time, how to add butt plugs to lesbian sex, and how to find the butt plug that’s right for you.

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