Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle

  • About
    • About Autostraddle
    • Meet The Team
    • Advertise
    • Press
    • Events
    • Contact
  • Shop
  • Sign in
    • Register
    • Lost Password?
  • Support Us
    • Buy Our Merch
    • Become an A+ Member
    • Give Us Money
    • Shop Our Affiliates
  • A+
    • All A+ Posts
    • The Autostraddle Insider
    • S L I C K Erotica
    • Into the A+ Advice Box
    • Some Answers to Some Questions
    • Sex Diary
    • Interview With My Ex-Girlfriend
    • Excerpts From My Secret Diary
    • Annual Report
    • Personal Essays
  • Television
    • All Television Posts
    • LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now
    • The L Word: Generation Q
    • The L Word: Generation Q recaps
    • The L Word
    • To L and Back Podcast
    • Recaps
    • Boobs On Your Tube
    • 202 Dead Les/Bi TV Characters
  • Film
    • All Film Posts
    • The 200 Best Lesbian, Bisexual & Queer Movies Of All Time
    • Movie Reviews
    • Best-Of Movie Lists
  • Arts+Pop Culture
    • All Arts + Pop Culture Posts
    • Books
    • Vapid Fluff
    • Fashion/Style
    • Music
    • Comedy
    • Theater
    • Visual Art
  • Sex+Dating
    • All Sex + Dating Posts
    • Lesbian Sex 101
    • How To Be Gay
    • NSFW Sunday
    • Shibari 101
    • Sex Toy Reviews
    • Tops & Bottoms
    • #PolyamoryProblems
  • Politics
    • All News + Politics Posts
    • Extra! Extra
    • COVID-19
    • This Is Not The Church of Social Justice
  • Community
    • The Autostraddle Yearbook
    • Roundtables
    • Herstory
    • First Person
    • Queer IRL
    • The QTPOC Speakeasy
    • Advice
    • You Need Help
    • Events + Meet-Ups Hub
    • Queer Girl City Guides
  • Columns
    • Things I Read That I Loved
    • Queer Horoscopes
    • No Filter
    • Year Of Our Lorde
    • Come Vibe With Me
    • Straight People Watch
    • The Dyke Kitchen
    • For Your Consideration
    • Queering Disability
    • Find Your Fit
    • Butch Please

Life

  • Food and Drink
  • DIY / Crafting / Food / Home
  • Health + Athletics
  • Travel
  • Business + Work

Geekery

  • All Geekery Posts
  • Drawn to Comics
  • Queer Your Tech
  • Saturday Morning Cartoons
  • Notes From A Queer Engineer
  • Gayme Corner
  • Video Games

LGBT Culture

  • Politics + Activism
  • Herstory
  • Marriage Equality
  • Coming Out
  • International News

Our Best Work

  • Greatest Hits
  • Ranked By Lesbianism
  • Epic Lists
  • Research/Investigations
  • Personal Essays
  • Longreads
  • Photo Essays
  • Shopping Guides
  • Listlings Without Commentary
  • Serious Business
  • Playlists

Etc.

  • Special Issues
  • Things I Read That I Love
  • Events
  • Lists/Top Tens
  • Calendar Girls
  • Autostraddle Merch

Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle

  • Support Us
    • Buy Our Merch
    • Become an A+ Member
    • Give Us Money
    • Shop Our Affiliates
  • A+
    • All A+ Posts
    • The Autostraddle Insider
    • S L I C K Erotica
    • Into the A+ Advice Box
    • Some Answers to Some Questions
    • Sex Diary
    • Interview With My Ex-Girlfriend
    • Excerpts From My Secret Diary
    • Annual Report
    • Personal Essays
  • Television
    • All Television Posts
    • LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now
    • The L Word: Generation Q
    • The L Word: Generation Q recaps
    • The L Word
    • To L and Back Podcast
    • Recaps
    • Boobs On Your Tube
    • 202 Dead Les/Bi TV Characters
  • Film
    • All Film Posts
    • The 200 Best Lesbian, Bisexual & Queer Movies Of All Time
    • Movie Reviews
    • Best-Of Movie Lists
  • Arts+Pop Culture
    • All Arts + Pop Culture Posts
    • Books
    • Vapid Fluff
    • Fashion/Style
    • Music
    • Comedy
    • Theater
    • Visual Art
  • Sex+Dating
    • All Sex + Dating Posts
    • Lesbian Sex 101
    • How To Be Gay
    • NSFW Sunday
    • Shibari 101
    • Sex Toy Reviews
    • Tops & Bottoms
    • #PolyamoryProblems
  • Politics
    • All News + Politics Posts
    • Extra! Extra
    • COVID-19
    • This Is Not The Church of Social Justice
  • Community
    • The Autostraddle Yearbook
    • Roundtables
    • Herstory
    • First Person
    • Queer IRL
    • The QTPOC Speakeasy
    • Advice
    • You Need Help
    • Events + Meet-Ups Hub
    • Queer Girl City Guides
  • Columns
    • Things I Read That I Loved
    • Queer Horoscopes
    • No Filter
    • Year Of Our Lorde
    • Come Vibe With Me
    • Straight People Watch
    • The Dyke Kitchen
    • For Your Consideration
    • Queering Disability
    • Find Your Fit
    • Butch Please
  • More
    • Life
      • Food and Drink
      • DIY / Crafting / Food / Home
      • Health + Athletics
      • Travel
      • Business + Work
    • Geekery
      • All Geekery Posts
      • Drawn to Comics
      • Queer Your Tech
      • Saturday Morning Cartoons
      • Notes From A Queer Engineer
      • Gayme Corner
      • Video Games
    • LGBT Culture
      • Politics + Activism
      • Herstory
      • Marriage Equality
      • Coming Out
      • International News
    • Our Best Work
      • Greatest Hits
      • Ranked By Lesbianism
      • Epic Lists
      • Research/Investigations
      • Personal Essays
      • Longreads
      • Photo Essays
      • Shopping Guides
      • Listlings Without Commentary
      • Serious Business
      • Playlists
    • Etc.
      • Special Issues
      • Things I Read That I Love
      • Events
      • Lists/Top Tens
      • Calendar Girls
      • Autostraddle Merch
  • About
    • About Autostraddle
    • Meet The Team
    • Advertise
    • Press
    • Events
    • Contact
  • Shop
  • Sign in
    • Register

      Lost Password?

Support Autostraddle

he said/we said

Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said: Holiday Boston Style

We thought it was high time to let Boston dapperQs provide us with some holiday and New Year’s Eve style inspiration for our long running HS/WS project.

By dapperq| December 16, 2015 | 18 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said: Vermont Redux

He Said/We Said brings you masculine-of-center interpretations of the last Band of Outsiders collection at a gorgeous old-time paper mill in Vermont.

By dapperq| October 20, 2015 | 3 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said Goes to Canada!

In this edition of He Said/ We Said, dapperQ features the masculine gender queer style of some amazing queers in Toronto!

By dapperq| August 10, 2015 | 10 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said: Pride 2015

Bright colors, eclectic prints and carefree dress are featured in this edition of He Said / We Said.

By dapperq| June 22, 2015 | 13 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said: A Cut Above the Rest

We’ll be back in Cincy shortly, but in the meantime we have returned home to catch up with some of New York City’s finest dappers.

By dapperq| February 3, 2015 | 9 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said: Stylin’ in Cincy

For our 21st edition, we’ve invited some dashing and stylish queers of Cincinnati to show us their swag.

By dapperq| January 2, 2015 | 10 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said: Laid-Back in Vermont

It gets bleeping cold in Vermont, so the dappers there are not playing around when it comes to style that is both fashionable and functional. The collection is rugged, stylish, and perfect for cold weather wardrobes.

By dapperq| November 13, 2014 | 16 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said Rocks Fall Style in Prospect Park

Like a boi band.

By dapperq| September 23, 2014 | 12 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said: SoCal Late Summer Swag

For our 18th edition of HS/WS, we returned to Cali, this time focusing on SoCal style.

By dapperq| August 26, 2014 | 7 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said: Cherry Blossom Swoons

“After a lifetime of having to conform to an image of femininity that weighed on me like a suit of armor, I cannot express how empowering it felt to be embraced and celebrated for my authentic self.”

By dapperq| June 2, 2014 | 9 Comments
Fashion/Style

Color Me Rad: He Said/ We Said Rocks Neutral Tones and Interesting Patterns

Only a set reminiscent of a Dexter crime scene would suffice in capturing the killer outfits we have for you this quarter.

By dapperq| March 7, 2014 | 8 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said: Holiday Hauteness

We’ve rounded up a group of New York City’s most stylish androgynous and masculine gender-queer models to show granny how holiday hotness is done — sans the dress.

By dapperq| November 26, 2013 | 21 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said / We Said: Game-changing Style

Women’s pro-football team, the New York Sharks are winning in these sideline looks.

By dapperq| October 16, 2013 | 15 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said / We Said: Inspired by Gay St. in the West Village

Rocking navys and grays in the West Village, we’ve got some stylish dapperQs interpreting the Bespoken Spring 2013 Collection.

By dapperq| August 22, 2013 | 9 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said: From Sea to Shining Sea

From California to Maine, June means Pride. We’ve got a spread that’s full of some handsome dapperQs wearing every color of the rainbow.

By dapperq| June 5, 2013 | 29 Comments
Fashion/Style

West Coast dapperQs take on He Said/We Said: The Name of the Game is McQueen

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boi.

By dapperq| March 13, 2013 | 29 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said Takes a Field Trip To the Art Gallery

Forget marble statues and artsy films. Our models are living, breathing masterpieces of style.

By dapperq| February 11, 2013 | 18 Comments
It's About You We’re fundraising so this space can stay alive. That’s because we believe that you deserve 100% gay media, relevant to your experiences, and the experiences of people in our community. You deserve that. We need this. Will you help us out?

Join A+ Starting at Just $4 / Month!

We're Over 6000 A+ Members Strong! A+ members are the secret gay illuminati keeping us around! It's also just a lot of good, queer fun. A+ starts at just $4 a month. Will you join?

Affiliate of the Month

wet for her logo

Wet For Her is an online sex toy retailer that's a welcoming space for queer women and the folx they love — celebrating a diverse range of bodies, genders, and orientations.

shop Wet For Her →

Support Autostraddle While You Shop!

Illustration of shopping bag surrounded by sparkles. Text reads Visit the Affiliate Marketplace

kickback some of your amazon purchase to us!

From the Archives

  • Effing Dykes Presents: What Lies Beneath (Her Fingernails)

    Effing Dykes Presents: What Lies Beneath (Her Fingernails)

  • Jessie J Did It Like a Dude and Most Dykes Like It

    Jessie J Did It Like a Dude and Most Dykes Like It

  • Anna Anthropy: Queering Video Games One Pixel at a Time

    Anna Anthropy: Queering Video Games One Pixel at a Time

Latest Comments

  • Ten On Introducing A+ Platinum "Eeeeee!"

  • Sarah On A+ Members! A Question: What Advice Would You Give Your Tween Self? "omg cleo yes!!!"

  • bethany On The Owl House’s Luz and Amity Capture the Singular Queer Experience of a Surprise First Crush "Another hint that Luz is bi! When Amity’s sister says something flirty to her (I can’t remember what it is…"

  • Nicole Hall On A+ Members! A Question: What Advice Would You Give Your Tween Self? "Do it! :) Can’t wait to see everyone’s responses"

  • SodaPop On “Barb & Star Go to Vista Del Mar” Is a Bananapants Brain Vacation and You Deserve It "This looks really fun."

  • Marissa H On March 2021: What’s New and Gay and Streaming on HBO Max, Netflix, Hulu and Amazon? "FWIW, I really enjoyed Ammonite!"

  • cleo On A+ Members! A Question: What Advice Would You Give Your Tween Self? "Oh wow. I’ve been pacing around my home office, muttering advice to my 12 year old self for like 30…"

  • tlynn On “Batwoman” Episode 206 Recap: Forehead Kisses and Other Kryptonite "This season is so good! I love all the characters criss-crossing into scenes and relationships with each other. Their conflicts…"

Support Us

Latest Posts

  • Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try Hinge, Try Not to Get Unhinged

    Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try Hinge, Try Not to Get Unhinged

  • Happy Birthday Autostraddle! Get Ready for Our Annual “Ask Us Anything” on March 9!

    Happy Birthday Autostraddle! Get Ready for Our Annual “Ask Us Anything” on March 9!

  • A+ Members! A Question: What Advice Would You Give Your Tween Self?

    A+ Members! A Question: What Advice Would You Give Your Tween Self?

  • Introducing A+ Platinum

    Introducing A+ Platinum

  • “Barb & Star Go to Vista Del Mar” Is a Bananapants Brain Vacation and You Deserve It

    “Barb & Star Go to Vista Del Mar” Is a Bananapants Brain Vacation and You Deserve It

Upcoming Meet-Ups & Events

Submit to our Community Calendar →
View More Meet-Ups & Events →
Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle

Our Network

  • Community
  • Store
  • A-Camp

About Us

  • What is AS?
  • Meet The Team
  • Press
  • Advertise
  • Contact Us
  • Write for Us

Follow Us

  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • Pinterest
  • Tumblr
  • Instagram
  • RSS

Copyright 2009 - 2021 The Excitant Group, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Comment Policy

Couch Change?

You can keep queer media alive with your couch change! (Is this still a thing?) If everyone who visited Autostraddle today gave just 78₵ we’d meet our goal. Will you help us out?


Become an A+ Member
Contribute to Our Membership Giveaway
Give thru PayPal
Explore Fundraiser Perks

Close Popup

AUTOSTRADDLE IS RAISING FUNDS FOR 2021 LEARN MORE →