“Neither of us were comfy with the public spectacle of the thing, especially G. She didn’t like the thought of publicizing our private relationship. We also felt a bit blah about marriage itself, which can feel like an outdated institution. And there were practical worries, too — like how would we plan a big event, with so much on our plates?”
Our panel answers your questions about getting knocked up, adopting, the challenges and rewards of queer mom life, and so much more!
One time I went with a friend to the hardware store and helped her pick out an S-Drill for her girlfriend. Now they’re married and live together in Indiana. Coincidence? I think not.
“The moment I met my child for the first time was nothing like I imagined it would be.”
“Becoming secure with being alone has relieved the frantic pressure to believe that every new person I meet might be the next person with whom I enter into a significant relationship, and instead it has provided me with the security and confidence to build a life on my own terms.”
Wife/wife documentary duo Michelle Boyaner and Barbara Green have been working together for decades — their latest project, It’s Not A Burden, gets real about the heartbreak and humor of caring for elderly parents.
Welcome to the first in a series of exciting discoveries from our survey of over 4,000 Autostraddle readers over the age of 29.
We’re here to talk about how to get out of credit card debt or, if that feels too big right now, how to manage your debt in such a way that it doesn’t keep you awake at night. Because neither you nor I are going to win the lottery tomorrow.
Congrats, Haley and Simone! Have a peek into Juniper Jude’s first few weeks on our big green earth with her mama and monie!
“Y’all, I managed not to cry in this third trimester video, but here I am now, writing, tears rolling down my face at my desk, just a few feet away from our new rocking chair where I plan to spend hours nursing my baby.”
No matter our differences, what unites us all is our intractable dependency upon caffeine, no matter its form. It’s what defines most of our mornings, many of our afternoons, and sometimes our evenings (or early AM hours). Give yourself the gift of perfectly steeped and/or brewed caffeinated beverages today, and thank yourself for it forevermore.
So what will Tiny call Simone?
Questions I never thought I’d have to consider, but here we are. Get an exclusive peek into my over-processing journey towards queer parenthood.
“My wife Kristie and I gleefully registered for all kinds of wedding gifts prior to our ceremony two years ago, from a vacuum cleaner to a camping tent. I was looking forward to unwrapping the mixer most of all, however.”
But you know what is great about being a queer gal or boi? Not giving a hoot about social norms around what “respectable ladies” are supposed to look like.
“In one of my college psych courses we had to try to use conditioning to get rid of bad habits. My classmates tried to stop biting their nails. I tried to stop panicking during sex.”
“I started looking at lists of what a baby “needs,” and, despite my supposed desire to raise my children with nothing more than a bearskin rug and my bare breasts, I started thinking maybe there were just a few things that might come in handy once the baby arrives…”
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8. How many holidays per year are you prepared to spend with my grandmother in Florida?