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Black Queer People Writing Ourselves Into History: An Autostraddle Master List

We want this year’s Black History Month to be serious. But also – sexy, fun, JOYful. We want to reflect the multiple ways that black people see ourselves and walk through our world. And so, we begin here. By writing ourselves back into our own history.

By Carmen Phillips| February 1, 2020 | 4 Comments
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Autostraddle’s Ultimate Holigay Toolkit

A handy collection of our very best holigay content to help you make it through this special time of year. Good luck out there!

By the team| November 28, 2019 | 14 Comments
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The Autostraddle Guide To Queer Mental Health

An epically organized guide to some of our best work on topics including depression, anxiety, grief, eating disorders, substance abuse and other legitimately important topics.

By The Editors| October 24, 2019 | 24 Comments
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Coming Out 101: The Autostraddle Guide

We’ve got tips, personal essays (the bad and the good), roundtables, advice, and everything you need to come out as a lesbian, bisexual, queer, trans or whatever YOUR TRUTH may be.

By Riese| October 11, 2018 | 36 Comments
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How To Be A Girl Who Dates Girls: Your Syllabus For Lesbian Dating 101

How to pick up chicks, how to escape your terrible date, how to handle rejection, how to effectively fight with your girlfriend — we’ve got so much advice for y’all.

By Riese| January 21, 2015 | 31 Comments

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