Coming Out

Resources and advice on coming out gay, lesbian, queer, bisexual, trans, non-binary and/or nothing at all! Essays and how-tos on coming out to yourself, figuring out your identity and more.

dating

‘Am I Queer or Just Repulsed by Straight Norms?’

There is no such thing as being queer “enough.” There is just being queer.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Oct 7, 2025

3-way graphic of women who came out later in life, sometimes known as "late in life lesbians": Carlease Burke, Maria Bello and Jenna Lyons

celebrities (vapid fluff)

14 Famous Queer Ladies Who Got Gayer a Little Later In Life

“I’m finding, especially with women, a couple of different kinds of gays. I’ve met people who say, “I knew I was gay my whole life, and I lived this lie,…

Riese

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Mar 12, 2021

A troubled-looking girl biting her lip as she looks at the camera

coming out

You Need Help: I Just Came Out, and I Feel Weird

Coming out isn’t a magic trick that makes us suddenly understand ourselves completely.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Nov 17, 2020

An unsure-looking white person with a scarf tied into their long hair and wearing a choker looks off to the side and bites their lip nervously

coming out

You Need Help: I Never Imagined I’d Live Past 20. Now What?

Babe, I promise you’re right on time. In 2020 I can’t be sure of hardly anything, but I am sure that you are good. You belong right where you are,…

Adrian

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Oct 27, 2020

an image of a photo of the author's head in peaked military cap, and bare Black shoulders. there is a pink flower blossoming over his left shoulder and one cropping up out of his right collarbone. there is a blur behind him of several stacked versions of his head, unfolding to the right of the graphic.

society + culture

Everything Is Subject to Change…

I idolized Shane, and the only trans man in the series, Max. I wanted to mirror their everyday existence. I wanted to emulate their cool. I wanted the attraction they…

cat jones

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Oct 11, 2020

a collection of faces and figures flooded in orange, bright green and hot pink, are scattered over a scene of crumbling pillars and doorways. and in between these figures are the gestures of the wings and petals, floating throughout.

society + culture

The Labyrinth Closet

We’re always coming out. As an: anime fanatic, manga-collecting Pokémon plushie hoarder; as a giddy, youthful ray of sunshine and not just the dense, American Dream-deprived immigrant, prompted over-thinker —…

féi hernandez

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Oct 11, 2020

a collage of 9 queer heads and bodies scattered across a peach background looking HOTT. all of these figures are posing to show off their current best iteration of themselves. the graphic style includes filters to that make all of the colors look brighter and deeper, and every figure has several versions of the same photo, stacked into a blur behind them.

society + culture

Coming Out Roundtable: Like A Can Of Pringles, Once You Pop The Fun Don’t Stop

We’re getting ready for Coming Out Day. “I also passive aggressively came out to my parents by posting a Facebook status on National Coming Out Day sixish years ago? They…

the team

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Oct 11, 2020

society + culture

How Did We Get Here? 6 Bi People on Coming to Their Identity for Bi+ Week 2020

“So many people come to the table with preconceived notions about bisexuality — namely that it excludes trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming folks — and if I was out in…

the team

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Sep 22, 2020

coming out

You Need Help: My Mom Is Offended I Didn’t Come Out To Her Sooner

Your mom is making this about herself, and it’s not fair to you.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Sep 22, 2020

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Coming Out

‘Am I Queer or Just Repulsed by Straight Norms?’

14 Famous Queer Ladies Who Got Gayer a Little Later In Life

You Need Help: I Just Came Out, and I Feel Weird

You Need Help: I Never Imagined I’d Live Past 20. Now What?

Everything Is Subject to Change…

The Labyrinth Closet

Coming Out Roundtable: Like A Can Of Pringles, Once You Pop The Fun Don’t Stop

How Did We Get Here? 6 Bi People on Coming to Their Identity for Bi+ Week 2020

You Need Help: My Mom Is Offended I Didn’t Come Out To Her Sooner

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