Summer Tao, Author at Autostraddle

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What Is Consensual Non-Consent Kink?

Consensual non-consent (CNC) is an umbrella term for fantasies and sex acts that mimic dubious or otherwise compromised consent.

Summer Tao

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May 23, 2025

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dating

How To Make Sending Nudes Your Love Language

My dual-citizenship as a rampant slut who loves sending nudes and a sex worker deeply concerned with safety makes me oddly well-positioned to talk about it. Here are some crucial…

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May 8, 2025

sex

‘I’m a Switch Having Trouble Initiating Topping’

My partner has a high libido and I have a relatively low one.

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May 6, 2025

sex

I Haven’t Orgasmed During Sex in Five Years and It’s Really Okay

Orgasms never came (hah) easily to me.

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May 5, 2025

relationships

‘I Want To Flee My Relationship’

“Today, I was talking to a dear friend about the current state of my relationship. They told me that it sounds like I am trapped, and that I am being…

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Apr 15, 2025

sex

‘I Am Nervous About Having Sex With My Trans Girlfriend for the First Time’

I would love some insights from other trans women on what to expect when having sex with a trans woman, because I really want her to have a good time…

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Apr 8, 2025

money + work

We’re Right Here: Finding Connection in My Community of Sex Workers

Whenever I think of the sex workers I befriended, the thing that always struck me is how different we all are.

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Mar 27, 2025

gender

‘Can Trans Men Be Butches?’

And what makes a butch, butch?

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Mar 25, 2025

gender

‘I Want To Change My Name Again’

Wanting to change your name now after people have adjusted will not make you a burden.

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Mar 18, 2025

gender

‘I’m Lost in the Gender Expression Sauce’

“I always thought, if I weren’t a trans man, I’d be a butch lesbian.”

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Mar 11, 2025

health

How Can Trans Women Deal With Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction is consistently counted among the most common sexual disorders. It’s also a topic close to my heart (and other organs) because I experience it.

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Mar 6, 2025

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Am I Disabled Enough?

Even after we come to terms with our impairments, we’re still dogged by self-doubt.

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Feb 25, 2025

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What Is Consensual Non-Consent Kink?

How To Make Sending Nudes Your Love Language

‘I’m a Switch Having Trouble Initiating Topping’

I Haven’t Orgasmed During Sex in Five Years and It’s Really Okay

‘I Want To Flee My Relationship’

‘I Am Nervous About Having Sex With My Trans Girlfriend for the First Time’

We’re Right Here: Finding Connection in My Community of Sex Workers

‘Can Trans Men Be Butches?’

‘I Want To Change My Name Again’

‘I’m Lost in the Gender Expression Sauce’

How Can Trans Women Deal With Erectile Dysfunction?

Am I Disabled Enough?

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Featured Articles

Why I Got a Tattoo That Says ‘Stupid Slut’

4 Unexpected Things That Can Happen to Transfeminine Bodies on Estrogen

How To Please a Pillow Princess, by a Pillow Princess

Why I Got a Tattoo That Says ‘Stupid Slut’

4 Unexpected Things That Can Happen to Transfeminine Bodies on Estrogen

How To Please a Pillow Princess, by a Pillow Princess

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