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Yao

A variety people of different races, gender, and ages all wear facemarks in this soft watercolor.
Geekery Visual Art

Baopu #81: The Ache Has No Name

However distant and isolated we feel, we remind each other to remember to breathe.

By Yao Xiao| January 2, 2021 | 2 Comments
A warm-hued water color of a yellow table, lit in sun rays with pink and orange hues at the edges. On he table is a pink teacup and cup of green tea.
Geekery Visual Art

Baopu #80: Meet Me For Infinite Tea

I have this reoccurring dream, where I run into my grandma while taking a walk. I’m missing the reunions we could have had this year, and looking at this separateness with bitter-sweet intention.

By Yao Xiao| December 5, 2020 | 7 Comments
A hand drawn image of colorful dandelions, around each are a set of words defining a "safe space:" "a shout of solidarity," "a word of encouragement," "resources for learning."
Geekery Visual Art

Baopu #79: What is Safe Space?

“Safe spaces were never granted to the marginalized. There’s no freedom without fighting.”

By Yao Xiao| November 7, 2020 | 6 Comments
A person stands covered from head-to-toe in fluffy white balls, almost like snow, against a pink background.
Geekery Visual Art

Baopu #78: One Day, I May Forget You

Letting go of certain past memories is bittersweet, comical, and inevitable all at the same time.

By Yao Xiao| October 10, 2020 | 10 Comments
Yao, with a a short red hair cut and stars in their eyes, is drawn in front of a yellow background that says "You can do it," "Don't Stop,"
Geekery Visual Art

Baopu #77: Internal Soundtrack

Finding the soundtracks that have been there all along, making room for new sounds.

By Yao Xiao| September 12, 2020 | 2 Comments
A cartoon of two friends sit on a park bench. One has short red hair and a pointy hat. The other has jet black hair to their shoulders and green jacket. The friend with the black hair says "WE are both lost and I can't be the one to help you."
Geekery Visual Art

Baopu #76: Lost, With Directions

I’m searching for the right person who can help me go through all this confusion.

By Yao Xiao| August 15, 2020 | 5 Comments
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Baopu #75: Hitting a Wall

A surreal exploration of tackling a mental road block. The other side might be a very different perspective.

By Yao Xiao| July 18, 2020 | 3 Comments
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Baopu #74: Radical Reconsiderations

As a queer Asian woman, I’m asking questions and finding my place in activism beyond self-love.

By Yao Xiao| June 20, 2020 | 6 Comments
Geekery Visual Art

Baopu #73: All The Silver Linings

I’ve become so sophisticated from maxing out on the benefits of staying home, there’s juuust one side effect.

By Yao Xiao| May 23, 2020 | 3 Comments
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Baopu #72: Working From Home

What happens when you try to be productive even though you can’t.

By Yao Xiao| April 25, 2020 | 11 Comments
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Baopu #71: Unwinding

Baopu shares a little reminder to relax during a stressful time.

By Yao Xiao| March 28, 2020 | 5 Comments
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Yao Xiao’s “Everything Is Beautiful, And I’m Not Afraid” Is as Queer and Hopeful as The Comic You Already Love

Everything Is Beautiful is one part beloved comics, one part brand new material, and all parts trademark Yao Xiao — warm colors, probing questions, deeply personal reflections, and an endless exploration of the binaries Yao has spent her life trying to navigate.

By Heather Hogan| March 3, 2020 | 6 Comments
Geekery Visual Art

Baopu #70: Resisting Conformity

I could always try harder to fight the urge of conforming to the path of least resistance.

By Yao Xiao| February 29, 2020 | 1 Comment
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Baopu #69: Coming of Age

I don’t want my life before America to become abstract, but the distance in space and time makes some loss inevitable.

By Yao Xiao| February 1, 2020 | 2 Comments
Geekery

Baopu #68: My Hopes And Fears

Baopu shares hopes and fears, from keeping creativity to taking action, for the New Year.

By Yao Xiao| January 4, 2020 | 5 Comments
Geekery

Baopu #67: The Best Queer I Can Be

For a moment, I let myself feel pride.

By Yao Xiao| December 7, 2019 | 10 Comments
Geekery

Baopu #66: The Mental Rhythm

Not a perfect introvert or extrovert 100% of the time.

By Yao Xiao| November 9, 2019 | 10 Comments
Geekery

Baopu #65: In The Cloud, In The Sky

Being queer is being free.

By Yao Xiao| October 12, 2019 | 5 Comments
Geekery

Baopu #64: Sandcastles And Ships

What if I can leave the past on the shore?

By Yao Xiao| September 14, 2019 | 5 Comments
Geekery

Baopu #63: The Phantom Judgement

Time to examine the habit of self-judgement and move on.

By Yao Xiao| August 17, 2019 | 11 Comments
Geekery

Baopu #62: Is My Freedom An Illusion?

I live an independent life at the cost of ignoring the baggage that comes with it.

By Yao Xiao| July 20, 2019 | 8 Comments
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