Our gender is not a burden, the binary mainstream society is. You are wonderful, I’m so proud of you for reaching out. Take what works from my suggestions, and know I’ll be hoping it all turns out for the best.
Polyamorous parenting, gossip, the creator of our rainbow flag has died, the conspiracies of Trumpland, that fucking wall is going to fuck with wildlife, and so much more!
As my gender expression changes, so does who I’m attracted to.
Like 85 links to keep you staring at your computing device like this 😐 for approximately the entire weekend. You’re welcome!
These gender non-conforming clothes are heckin’ cute, kitten wedding?? kinda!, picnic destinations, dogs, bathing suits, Gilda Radner, this feminist bookstore, perfume, and so much more!
Malaysia’s High Court allowed a trans man to update his Identity Card to reflect his current name and gender identity. This possibly paradigm-changing ruling on IC changes opens the door for reviews of other anti-LGBTQ laws.
We now live in a world where it is totally possible to claim the same word as someone else and completely disagree on what the word means.
Kristin, co-founder of Everyone is Gay, and musician Allison Weiss have teamed up to bring you OUR Restroom, a campaign that works to educate businesses on the importance of unisex bathrooms.
“Gender self-determination is vital and I can feel great about who I am when I am at home. But I live a life where I engage with other people and doing what feels good for me is a lot more challenging when I step outside the door. With pronouns specifically, it’s hard not to feel like you are dependent on others to ‘validate’ your gender, or rather, it’s hard not to feel like your gender is not valid when people use the wrong pronoun.”
Warland, and Oscar of Between, is refreshingly unconcerned with being there already. Instead, she deep-dives into the potency of occupying transitional spaces, the beauty of being in-between.
“My goopy brain instantly convinced me that this event would singularly make or break our relationship and that if it went poorly it would be my fault. But I swallowed my anxiety and said yes. Then I immediately started thinking about my outfit.”
“I’m not stuck somewhere in the middle of being a boy and a girl. I’m not two people. I’m not some binary. I am an experience.”
I had heard about Reina Gossett and Grace Dunham’s close relationship, and how it was informing some incredible work together, so I sought them out to find out more — over the course of our afternoon together in NYC, our conversation covered everything from the damages of biological essentialism to the radical power of empathy to how important it is to feel sexy sometimes.
Lauren Denitzio uses 12 songs to capture their heart — their rage, their love, their adulthood, their politics — and offer it to the world. In the process, they found the pulse of queerness in 2015 and turned it into a drumbeat.
It’s as if I had just discovered a new color and now had this entirely new dimension to my life. I was able to paint a holistic portrait of what I wanted the rest of my life to look like.
“Not all of my experiences as an intersex person inform my being gay, and vice versa, but the overlap is there and it affects things in ways that are both good and complicated at a time in history when homophobia and intersexphobia are alive and kicking.”
Gorgeous photos of diverse queer people, black intersectional womanist feminism, Whoopi and Hannah, lady inventor, nail salons in NYC are fucked, what Trina taught you, Hillary, pollen, an inordinate number of greeting card talk, spiders, Whole Foods, bones, crying, witches, ice cream cones three times, Janelle Monae, Mx. and so much more!
“Dating broken white women became a way to reprise a powerlessness that years of sexual abuse and generations of blackphobia had tricked me into believing in. I drowned this feeling of powerlessness in weed and seeking out relationships in which I could engage in yet remain completely hidden from view.”
SPOILER ALERT: Gender is (sort of) a myth.
Liz Prince’s new graphic memoir Tomboy is a smart and outright cute exploration of girlhood by a girl who didn’t ‘fit’ but survived to tell the tale.