When Other People Get to Give Away Their Binders
Getting top surgery with my butch identity is no longer some unattainable fantasy. Now the question firmly rests with me: do I want to go ahead with it or not?
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Mud Wrestling Showed Me How To Want
Our thighs slapped against the tarp as we threw each other across the floor. Our eyes and ears were painted in mud like two casts of the human form. The thing that pulled me into the ring that night was desire itself.
How Do You Plan for Transition in a Pandemic-Related Economic Depression? Financial Advisors Have Some Thoughts
The COVID-19 quarantine, which now, perhaps, connotes to be known as a period of extended doldrums for gender transitioning adults across America, has produced its share of coping mechanisms.Autostraddle caught up with two financial advisers who serve transgender clients, Timothy LaPean and Hans Heath.
You Need Help: Gender Feels in Quarantine
Your rawness and tenderness is a primal signal that you are alive. It’s exhausting and there’s no way to turn it off. Let yourself breathe through this, and trust that it is not a waste of time to devote your energy to the work of becoming.
The Drag Kings of Taipei
I moved to California from Shanghai at fourteen and threw myself into learning how to be an American. It’s a lot like doing drag.
You Need Help: A Non-Binary Woman Working Through the Gender Feels
“Sometimes, when we allow ourselves to open a door, to open a possibility, the weight of that possibility and that choice is damn heavy – and overwhelming.”
You Need Help: How Do I Tell If I’m a Butch Cis Woman or a Trans Non-Binary Person?
If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.
Into The A+ Advice Box #3: Summer Hookups, Bisexual Sadness and Gender Feelings
We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!
We Aren’t Failures: Naming What Was Lost as an Agender Person
“Other people built a gender for me and trusted that I would defend what they built. But what I was handed never made sense.”
You Need Help: You’re Not Sure If You’re a Boy and Gender Is Hard
“A lot of the narrative about gender questioning at large is about tragedy, about what we lose. I encourage you (even though I know it’s challenging) to think about your gender from a different angle. What makes you feel affirmed?”
Drawn to Comics: “The Prince and the Dressmaker” Is a Stunningly Gorgeous Book About Being Yourself
We’re all lucky enough to see an exclusive preview of this book about dresses, gender, true selves and love right here.
Y’All Need Help #20: First Admit That You Don’t Know Yet
What should you do about a baby’s pronouns, how do you and your girlfriend both propose to each other, and how do you stop holding a candle for an idealized past? Come on in!
You Need Help: Reacting to Misgendering in Public
“Why can’t I just let it roll off me? And do you think there’s a way to react that might make the situation a little less miserable for me?”
You Need Help: Coming Out as Non-Binary at Work
Our gender is not a burden, the binary mainstream society is. You are wonderful, I’m so proud of you for reaching out. Take what works from my suggestions, and know I’ll be hoping it all turns out for the best.
Also.Also.Also: These Genderless Emojis Will Be Neat and Other Stories for Your Week
Polyamorous parenting, gossip, the creator of our rainbow flag has died, the conspiracies of Trumpland, that fucking wall is going to fuck with wildlife, and so much more!
Bottoms Up: Ch-ch-changes
As my gender expression changes, so does who I’m attracted to.
Also.Also.Also: From Dinosaur Beer to National Geographic’s Gender Revolution
Like 85 links to keep you staring at your computing device like this ? for approximately the entire weekend. You’re welcome!
Also.Also.Also: Gender Non-Conforming Clothes for All Abilities and Other Colorful Things for Your Weekend
These gender non-conforming clothes are heckin’ cute, kitten wedding?? kinda!, picnic destinations, dogs, bathing suits, Gilda Radner, this feminist bookstore, perfume, and so much more!
Seeds of a Revolution: Malaysian Trans Community Win in High Court’s Landmark Ruling
Malaysia’s High Court allowed a trans man to update his Identity Card to reflect his current name and gender identity. This possibly paradigm-changing ruling on IC changes opens the door for reviews of other anti-LGBTQ laws.
What We Mean When We Say “Femme”: A Roundtable
We now live in a world where it is totally possible to claim the same word as someone else and completely disagree on what the word means.