Gottmik wants to show that trans people don’t have to be Barbie and Ken. Or, maybe, in her case, that trans men can be Barbie too.

We could all do with a little bit more self-care right now; this how-to takes you through one dyke’s journey to find joy and slowness through The Pause Project. Learn about her process and read about some ways you can curate a self-care project like this for yourself.

Riese: I would text Riley and be like “you up?”
Carly: Are you still at the gay bar…? Because?
Riese: I would come back incensed with rage and ready to make a mistake.
Carly: Ready to ruin my relationship.
Riese: Yes. I would be full of the spirit of ruin and ready to share it.
Carly: Which is not Christmas spirit, but it is kind of related.

We got superhero movies! Teen comedies! Christmas movies! Oscar bait! Musicals!!!!

Riese: One boob out. I love the one boob out.
Carly: One boob out is incredible.

“At the cultural level, in the US at least, when you say someone is bisexual, the image that automatically generates is of a cis bisexual person. The double erasure of bi+ trans people is something that really hurts and also makes a lot of sense.”

COVID-19 has rearranged our entire societal choreography. Here’s how two queer dancers of color are coping with the distance.

“They were like whatever we have dozens of lesbian bars, we have magazines, we have all of this culture, we have Marlene Dietrich, we don’t need this little girl thing.”

You can scroll through my top ten shows and know exactly who I am and who I’ve been — a consistently queer, formerly goth, recovering musical theater nerd with a penchant for dry humor and scary women. Sharing this list is like showing you my diary if all my love poems were about Sandra Oh.

When we fully embrace the energy and intention of The Lovers and Gemini, we can honor our wants and needs without feeling selfish, can make space for our desires without feeling greedy, can recognize just how important our dreams really are and go after them without hesitating. What have you learned to love about yourself?

The astrology of this month is about deepening into the places where we need to heal. Losing control, we find our connections. Here are some tools for working with fear.

“Okay so Christian Bale plays… Mr. Ferrari. And Matt Damon plays… Henry Ford?”

Maybe messy is a naturally queer state of being. Or maybe I’m gross. Either way, come hang with me!

In the new year, let’s say goodbye to relationship drama and welcome stronger ties.

Regardless of whether you ultimately see the use of militant force as an admirable tactic, the truth is that any progress the queer community has made is at least in part to all those queers who refused to play by the rules, the queers who behaved badly, the queers who believed that unjust laws must be broken as a method of survival.

Always a side piece and never a main piece? We’ve got you covered.

“Nothing the show will throw at me will ever doubt my faith in the foundation of their love. NOTHING!! So don’t even try it, Jane the Virgin. This is an official warning.”

2017 was the best of times and the worst of times. LOL JK it was the absolute worst of times. But the queer TV was pretty good.

Before Angela Lansbury told women they were partly to blame for sexual assault, she helped me with my imposter syndrome.

Kat faces vile trolls in a real, incisive look at online harassment.