Also.Also.Also: I Tried to Think of a More Clever Headline, but Sara Ramirez Left Me Speechless

Feature image of Sara Ramirez by Easton Schirra for Out Magazine

Tonight I am making an Apple Bacon Pizza and turning my leftover Halloween candy into blondies (use this recipe, sub chocolate chips for chopped up mini-snickers, thank me later).

Queer as in F*ck You

Welp! No need to bury the headline here…

Bi-con Sara Ramirez and their pitch perfect smokey eye with just little hint armpit hair is on the cover of Out Magazine’s annual Out 100 issue (they also stopped my heart cold for at least a full 15 seconds, easy, and my work colleagues had to check on me to see if I was ok — not the point here!)

“Life and its unfolding [are] not linear… We don’t have to have everything all figured out to be worthy of love. It’s the people who can hold space for you — when you don’t have all the answers — that really matter.”

Sara Ramirez Reinvented TV — and the World

I want to put a very large editor’s note on this one that I do not bind my chest, and I don’t know that this “actually works,” and that binding is something that should be done safely and if you want to learn more, here’s the Autostraddle archives for a start. Ok all that very important info out of the way, The TikTok Famous Binder Alternative From Girlfriend Collective Actually Works from Refinery29

Are we still celebrating Halloween? Being gay means that Halloween is never really over, right? ‘Jennifer’s Body’ Has Become a Hallmark of Queer Horror. These Fans Explain Why.

Queer dating in the pandaroma! My Mingle With the Post-App Singles. “It’s actually kind of hard to flirt in person.”

Saw This, Thought of You

The Pandemic Is Still Making Us Feel Terrible. “Turns out, it’s hard to adjust to a new normal when that new normal keeps changing.”

Language Callouts Obscure Some Vital Truths About Disabilities (this comes to you from Bitch’s new Access Series, edited by Evette Dionne and Alice Wong)

This quiet meditation on divorce and loss and what we do with our appliances is very sweet and all, but I still want a KitchenAid Mixer more than anything on this earth and I do not care: Turns Out a Lot of People Have Mixed-Up Feelings About Their KitchenAid Mixers

The Return of the Cringe Couple. “You love/hate to see it — admit it.”

And once again I must say, let’s go lesbians! Endangered California Condors Reproduced Without Having Sex With Males in a Rare Example of Avian ‘Virgin Births’

Political Snacks

Senate Confirms Beth Robinson , the First Out Lesbian Federal Appellate Judge

And this next one if for today’s Election Day! Which includes a race in little ole Buffalo, New York where a Black woman socialist, single mom, domestic violence survivor India Walton is looking to take on a four-term incumbent in one of the most nationally closely watched races happening tonight.

In full disclosure I was born in Buffalo, lived there until I was 11 years old, most of my family still lives there (I have multiple family members doing Get Out the Vote for India Walton today, in fact). But I thought that this profile of Walton’s unexpected mayoral race, by Keeanga-Yamahtta Taylor for The New Yorker, was absolutely breathtaking in its study of race, capitalism, the left over bones of rust belt cities, and their spirit to break open anew: Another Buffalo Is Possible

(Also.Also.Also: 8 LGBTQ candidates who could make history in today’s elections)

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Carmen Phillips

Carmen is Autostraddle's Editor-in-Chief and a Black Puerto Rican femme/inist writer. She claims many past homes, but left the largest parts of her heart in Detroit, Brooklyn, and Buffalo, NY. There were several years in her early 20s when she earnestly slept with a copy of James Baldwin’s “Fire Next Time” under her pillow. You can find her on twitter, @carmencitaloves.

Carmen has written 715 articles for us.


  1. I rarely have crushes on actresses. I’ll fawn over the characters they play but the actresses themselves usually don’t do it for me. Weird I know.

    Sara Ramirez is one of the very few exceptions. I would wife her if given a chance and I don’t even believe in marriage.

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