Is It Fair For Our Newly Sober Friend To Make Our Group Hangs Sober Too?

I don't know how to approach this at all.
Q:
My close friend has recently gotten sober and we’re all really happy for them. They said they were okay with being around us when we’re all drinking, but it definitely didn’t actually feel that way. It was little questions like, “are you driving?” when someone got a second drink or “wow I can’t believe I used to drink this much,” “how many drinks is that?”, stuff like that, then texting the group chat the next morning at 6am that they’re on a run to make us feel bad about being hungover. They were always pushing us to leave the bar to go back to someone’s house. To be honest with you, I’m also struggling with the situation that it actually is less fun to be out when they’re there, we don’t have t...

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