I’m a tomboy femme who’s been stuck in boring clothes in the last several years looking to break out of the funk of wearing nothing but work polos and old Navy pixie pants every day. I need a work style that feels more professional and grown up, but still shows off a little flair and queerness.
Previously I’ve felt pretty comfortable presenting very femininely but recently started a new corporate job and I am SICK of having to wear the traditional slacks + top combo. That sparked the whole thought process behind reevaluating my wardrobe and since then, I’ve found that I really don’t feel like myself in very many of my clothes.
It’s been a wild year for gay pop culture, and a great year for some very well dressed queers — enjoy it with this very subjective but deeply felt top 11 of 2018, as based on an internal Autostraddle staff survey.
“I had a kid two years ago and have really struggled working out my gender after that. My body changed a lot in ways I did not like and I’ve been trying to come to terms with my identity as a person, rather than just my kid’s mum.”
What Shapeshifters has done here is made binders where the point of them goes beyond the normal utilitarian point of a binder. And honestly? We deserve that!
Let’s be real: shopping for other people is already daunting. Shopping for lingerie and underthings? Holy eff. Here are some of the essentials to know when it comes to lingerie gift giving.
Are you wearing a festive yet alluring butch outfit while reclining in front of a fireplace with a delicious wintertime cocktail? Hm. Well, we can help fix that.
“A lot of what I’m trying to evoke can be represented in the hosts of The Weakest Link around the world. Powerful take-no-shit femmes in suits, oh my.”
“My favorite thing in the world is when people ask if it’s a mood ring so I can say yes.”
Some of you might be here because the weather changed and you need warm things, some of you are like me and can’t wait to buy shit for every season, and some of you just want to look cute and don’t know where to start.
Since 2016, the bisexual bob has been taking the bisexual world by storm. But where did this alternative lifestyle haircut begin? And where, pray tell, is it going?
We’ve got it all! From makeup and skincare products, to statement tees and accessories! I’m confident that you’ll find more than a few items to give someone that you love.
“I want to be SEEN by that hot dyke in the bus, ya know? And also to feel at home in this fat, queer body that I haven’t felt good about for too long and that I love now but don’t know how to show off?”
“I’d actually never even seen a woman in a blazer before. Like a men’s cut blazer. It really was like Fun Home. Inside I really did feel like I KNOW YOU!”
Sometimes you just have to let out your inner Connecticut divorcée on a beach.
“Occasionally I wake up looking like a teen heartthrob on the cover of Tiger Beat circa 1997, like a Home Improvement-era Jonathan Taylor Thomas”
“I’m adult and I’ve never cried over a haircut before and I don’t usually call my mom when I’m sad or frustrated or mad. She asked to see a photo of it. I sent her one and she asked me if the man hated queers, because this was clearly a hate crime.”
It’s true that queer women and non-binary people are more likely to let their body hair grow than straight cis women are — but a lot of us still take it off.
“I’m a psych major with a love for writing poetry and making traditionally masculine and also lesbian things — style or otherwise — edgy and feminine. One of my many mottos is “femme ain’t frail” and I would hope the way I present represents that.”
“One time my coworker asked if I could dress any dykier and you know what? I don’t know. It’s pretty gay.”