Summer Tao, Author at Autostraddle

"I want to feel hot — not awful / dysphoric / self conscious."

‘How Can I Dress Kinky and Androgynous at Play Parties?’

The context to this question is that my partner and I are both kinky (privately? I guess?), and we’re interested in feeling out the kink scene locally a bit more.

Summer Tao

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Nov 5, 2024

friendship

My Girlfriend and I Did a Boudoir Shoot With Our Gay Bestie and It Was Great for Self-Esteem

There was also something to be said for the beauty of women bonding platonically over sexuality.

Summer Tao

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Nov 4, 2024

first person

Cheers to the Birthday I Didn’t Think I’d Reach

I turned 30 last month. It was my first birthday in recent memory I actually planned for.

Summer Tao

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Oct 30, 2024

"As with all lesbian drama, it’s complicated."

dating

‘The Girl I’m Vibing With Thinks I’m Still Into My Ex’

Queer relationships often don’t take the shape or trajectory of cis-heterosexual ones.

Summer Tao

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Oct 8, 2024

"I feel a LOT of sexual desire in an abstract sense, but have no motivation to act on it with anyone in particular, even myself."

dating

‘I Want a T4T Relationship but Worry About Chaser Behavior’

So, shame about sexuality. Lots of us have some. Some of us have lots.

Summer Tao

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Oct 1, 2024

relationships

What Are Mixed Orientation Relationships?

And what can we learn from dating people with sexual orientations different from our own?

Summer Tao

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Sep 20, 2024

"It's not lost on me that this exact type of story is catnip to those who would seek to tear down the rights of trans people."

gender

‘I Identified As Non-Binary for Years but I Think I’m Cis’

Gender exploration is for everyone, regardless of starting point or expectations.

Summer Tao

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Sep 17, 2024

sex

I Asked the Women Who Follow Me on Instagram if They’d Like To Receive Nudes. Here’s What Happened

This started as an exercise in self-love and turned into an exercise in personal connection.

Summer Tao

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Sep 10, 2024

dating

‘How Do I Date When I’m Attracted to Hardly Anyone?’

“I’ve been out and queer for a long time now, and I get quite a bit of attention from people. I have a lot of self-confidence and if I’m into…

Summer Tao

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Aug 20, 2024

"She was my very first love, the first person I slept with, and she's always somehow been on my mind."

relationships

‘I’m Married, My Ex Just Said She’s in Love With Me, and I Don’t Know What To Do’

“I’ve done a lot of processing, but I am super confused. I don’t know what feelings are memories from the past and what is today.”

Summer Tao

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Aug 13, 2024

someone googling do i have adhd, do i have anxiety, do i have autism, do i have ocd, and do i have bpd

health

Why We Shouldn’t Be Overly Dismissive of Self-Diagnosis

The healthcare system has a longstanding reputation for mistreating queer people, and self-diagnosis can provide agency even with its shortcomings.

Summer Tao

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Aug 1, 2024

sex

How To Reframe Masturbation As ‘Solo Sex’

Like all sex acts, masturbation isn’t just about sex.

Summer Tao

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Jul 31, 2024

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‘How Can I Dress Kinky and Androgynous at Play Parties?’

My Girlfriend and I Did a Boudoir Shoot With Our Gay Bestie and It Was Great for Self-Esteem

Cheers to the Birthday I Didn’t Think I’d Reach

‘The Girl I’m Vibing With Thinks I’m Still Into My Ex’

‘I Want a T4T Relationship but Worry About Chaser Behavior’

What Are Mixed Orientation Relationships?

‘I Identified As Non-Binary for Years but I Think I’m Cis’

I Asked the Women Who Follow Me on Instagram if They’d Like To Receive Nudes. Here’s What Happened

‘How Do I Date When I’m Attracted to Hardly Anyone?’

‘I’m Married, My Ex Just Said She’s in Love With Me, and I Don’t Know What To Do’

Why We Shouldn’t Be Overly Dismissive of Self-Diagnosis

How To Reframe Masturbation As ‘Solo Sex’

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Why I Got a Tattoo That Says ‘Stupid Slut’

4 Unexpected Things That Can Happen to Transfeminine Bodies on Estrogen

How To Please a Pillow Princess, by a Pillow Princess

Why I Got a Tattoo That Says ‘Stupid Slut’

4 Unexpected Things That Can Happen to Transfeminine Bodies on Estrogen

How To Please a Pillow Princess, by a Pillow Princess

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