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San Diego

About Me

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Lesbian, Queer, Femme



Looking For

Queer Friends in my Area, Queer Friends to Make Out With

Relationship Status



Being a good friend and confidant, losing gracefully, unironically enjoying things, making people happy by cooking for them.


Getting sucked in to marathons of terrible tv shows, cigarettes, stealing socks from my dad, ignoring good advice.

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What I Like

Favorite Books

Breakfast at Tiffany’s, the Master and Margarita, Betsy and the Great World (my favorite book from childhood that totally changed my life), On the Road, Garlic and Sapphires.

Favorite Queer Books

I need more queer books. Stat.

Favorite Movies

The Commitments, Silver Linings Playbook, the Pink Panther (the Peter Sellers one), Empire Records, To Have and Have Not, Lars and the Real Girl, Sixteen Candles, Swing Kids, Best in Show.

Favorite Documentaries

Before Stonewall, Jiro Dreams of Sushi, A Very Long Engagement, No Direction Home, Love in Action.

Favorite TV Shows

Bomb Girls, Downton Abbey, The West Wing, Pit Bulls and Parolees, Parks and Recreation, RuPaul’s Drag Race (and everything else RuPaul related), Top Chef, Girls. And obviously the Rachel Maddow Show, but that probably goes without saying.

Favorite Music

James Carr, The Detroit Cobras, Dinah Washington, Murder City Devils, Violent Femmes, Patsy Cline, Portishead, Chavela Vargas, Lhasa, Wilson Pickett, Fugazi, Etta James, Nylon, The Black Heart Procession.

Favorite Sandwich

Anything with sourdough and avocados involved. Or banh mi.

Favorite Quotes

“You know how to whistle, don’t you, Steve? You just put your lips together and… blow.” -Lauren Bacall in To Have and Have Not

Favorite Thing on

The illustrations in the Oh Gay Cupid series.

Favorite Writers

David Sedaris, Ruth Reichl, ee cummings, Truman Capote, Sarah Waters, Nick Hornby.