The Basics




Rotterdam the Netherlands

About Me

About Me

Transwoman with a difficult hormonal transition. Unemployed archivist. Single and trying to find out where I am between middle of the road bisexual and lesbian. Interests in no particular order: sci-fi/fantasy, (model)railroads, cooking, history, politics, music from the Andes

Check All That Apply

Lesbian, Trans Woman


Nothing is written / I WILL make an effort



Looking For

Queer Friends in my Area, Queer Friends on the Internet

Relationship Status


What I Like

Favorite Books

Sci-fi: Honor Harrington series by David Weber
Fantasy: Game of thrones, Wheel of time, Malazan book of the dead by Steven Erikson

Favorite Music

Original music from the Andes, particularly Los Kjarkas and Kalamarka. Victor Jara. Chris Rea.

Favorite Sandwich

Pastrami with cream cheese and gherkins

Favorite Quotes

For whom the Bell Tolls
John Donne

From Devotions upon Emergent Occasions (1623), XVII: Nunc Lento Sonitu Dicunt, Morieris –

PERCHANCE he for whom this bell tolls may be so ill,
as that he knows not it tolls for him;
and perchance I may think myself so much better than I am,
as that they who are about me,
and see my state,
may have caused it to toll for me,
and I know not that.

from T.S. Elliot: Little Gidding (last of the four Quartets)

We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time

Article 1 of the Dutch constitution:

All persons in the Netherlands shall be treated equally in equal circumstances. Discrimination on the grounds of religion, belief, political opinion, race or sex or on any other grounds whatsoever shall not be permitted.

At the crossroads of decision there is no signpost

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.
Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. – Marianne Williamson

Thanks NewWarriorMan for posting this quote.

Robert Frost (1874–1963). Mountain Interval. 1920.

1. The Road Not Taken

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Favorite Writers

David Weber, Steven Erikson