Welcome to Come Vibe With Me, my new weekly Sunday column here on Autostraddle.
Sundays are my favorite day of the week, the afternoons in particular. I wake up, take my time making the sexiest homemade coffee drink I’ve had all week, put on my lofi hip-hop beats, cozy up on the couch, and start reading all the articles I’ve saved in my Pocket app through the week.
It’s the start to me resetting after what has probably been a long week. Putting myself first and kicking back. I do the things that make me happy, which is something more and more black people have been learning and encouraged to do in recent months, and I am absolutely here for it. As my Sunday goes on, I tend to my plants, watch shows or films, hop on a zoom date — I do what I want to curate the cozy vibe my Sundays have come to be.
If you aren’t new to me here on Autostraddle, you know that community, true self-care, and vibes are quite important to me. My identity allows me to be part of multiple communities at once and although sometimes that can be draining, most days it’s a beautiful fulfilling experience. I want to use this space to share with you things from the multiple facets of who I am that I’ve enjoyed throughout the week.
You’ll find articles that I connected with, be introduced to movies & television that I couldn’t stop watching, find ways to do your part to help different communities and so much more — all while vibing out to a weekly playlist curated by me to play during your Sundays.
I hope you find joy in this piece of me that I wanted to share with you.
It’s simple, it’s Shelli and it’s a Vibe.
Love ya bunches honeys,
Y’all Come Look at This
Peppermint is my pastel princess in her latest music video “Best Sex” — This video makes me miss getting eaten out on kitchen countertops more than I already did
Rachel Charlene Lewis & Evette Dionne chat about their disappointment with the new Netflix series Emily In Paris
Lex Amor had her Colors show this week and every bit of it was amazing — this performance of her song Odogwu is Sunday perfection
Fahima Hersi on her black identity and racism in the muslim community during the time of revolution
Lovecraft Country creator Misha Green took accountability for the hurtful storyline of the show’s Two-Spirit Indigenous character, Yahima
Jamila Woods talks creativity, blackness, femininity, and more while modeling the latest Perfect Number collection. Photos shot by the wonderfully dope Mercedes Zapata
The hairstyles of 8 Black Final Girls — Angela Bassett and her bangs deserve literally everything good in the world
Remember COVID is still a very big thing and it’s also flu season, Big Freedia premiered Rona Rona this week to remind you to cancel your plans, stay at home, and chill in the fucking house.
Yo, Have You Seen —
Vampires VS. The Bronx
It’s Halloween season and while I will be revisiting my favorite spooky movies non-stop I am excited to get some new ones too. Vampires Vs. The Bronx is the story of a few teens who are minding their own business — while trying to save their neighborhood from gentrification, drug dealers, and vampires.
I’ve already watched it a few times and it’s such a cute movie! It’s gonna give you a few jump scares, will def make you laugh and it’s got a hella witty plot that unfolds and wraps up decently. The cast is mostly Latinx and Black, and I love that because having more POC folks in the horror genre is needed and wanted.
There are def vampires in your neighborhood but the question is, are you on of them?
This week on the bulletin board we have some sweet platonic love speed friending, A live chat about being queer, Black, and Caribbean from some of our British homies, an opportunity to support Black Trans Power in Chicago, the return of QUEEN! live from Chicago and much more! If you have any QTBIPOC Events, Mutual Aids, Fellowships and more that you want to share with me send me a message over on Instagram.
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This playlist came to me after I imagined chilling on a beautiful woman’s couch. My fingers in her hair while she comfortably lays between my legs, a throw gently draped over us, and the music serving as our soundtrack. Play this and kick back — think about that kind of sweetness on a Sunday morning.
ahh i watched vampires vs the bronx a couple of days ago and loved it!
Welcome on your new weekly series, Shelli! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love the playlist and the Sanderson Sisters, perhaps most of all.
Yes to everything about this
You started with Peppermint 😍💜😍💜😍
As soon as I saw your name on this Shelli, I was so so excited, and now I’m just going to have to get a cup of tea so I can calm myself enough to see and read the rest!
This is the sweetest!!! Thank you 🤍🌿
I watched Vampires vs the Bronx last night and am currently listening to Lex Amor (with a little bit of London nostalgia for my old hometown) so, Shelli this was the gift that kept on giving, thank you again!!
love this concept!
Shelllliii this so excellent!!!! ✨💕 I love the community board!
So excited for this feature!
I love the sunday morning image you painted 😌
may I ask a thing, the community love events, are those events for QTBIPOC specifically? I don’t want to crash a party…
Hiya! I appreciate this and yes! It’s all for POC folks and will be every week 🤍
Great! good to know! Maybe the section could be called “QTIPOC Community Love” to make this clear?
on a site like Autostraddle I firstly link “community” to the lesbian* community :)
The entire column is about, features or is for QTBIPOC folks and everything in it features POC people.
If you go to the links on the events or mutual aid many of them will let you know that or tells you that outright on the flyers.
In my introduction I also say that my identity allows me to be part of multiple communities at once and gives anyone who doesn’t know me the opportunity to do one slight extra step of research to learn that those include being black, being a woman AND being a lesbian.
On a site like Autostraddle yes some of the content is by those who Identify as non-poc lesbians but it’s also full of articles by those of us who are lesbians AND Black – for many of us the word “community” means more than one thing.
Totally agree that you hold and identify with multiple identities and refer to different communities and this is a good thing!
I just would not want to put what you write into any assumed category. imho it would be dangerous to always assume that a person is x and thus only writes/contributes x. sure when you write f.i. a personal essay, I will of course assume that it speaks from the intersection of identities you hold. when you write a novel not necessarily. neither in a link round up – you can like and reccommend any article you consider relevant to any or all identities you hold, as you shared in the intro.
I totally support “entre nous” spaces, those are legit and important to have, so obvs it is a good thing to have a specific QTBIPOC-events section. still I would appreciate it labeled.
f.e. my womens* sports club offers classes for all members, for trans/inter-folx, or for trans/inter-folx&friends. I consider this very transparent and a person is quick to know whether they are adressed or not. everybody can always browse all the flyers but know right away whether they might participate or not.
I don’t know if we’ve had the opportunity to meet before, but I’m Carmen — and I’m the editor on this series.
To be honest, this does feel like a minor thing to be continue going back-and-forth about in the comment thread. Particularly on Shelli’s FIRST instillation of this column, when I’d love for our energies to be focused on celebrating her hard work and creativity.
That said, while I hear your concerns, I feel it’s important to point out that Shelli has already laid out the parameters you are asking for. Underneath “Community Love,” in the intro sentences, Shelli explicitly writes as follows:
“If you have any QTBIPOC Events, Mutual Aids, Fellowships and more that you want to share with me send me a message”
I imagine a version of that sentence will also exist weekly within Community Love, because of its focus.
It is not our interest to change the title of the section in question to “QTBIPOC Community Love” nor to do any other significant changes to this column as a whole (unless Shelli decides to on her own), because we support Shelli and all our writers to define their own community on their terms. And we also don’t want to single out QTBIPOC people in a limited space, when they are welcome in all spaces across our site.
It’s very clear, based on her own words, the exact submissions that Shelli is looking for. And it’s also clear that the voice of the column, and its interests, come from her own intersecting identities as a Black lesbian. We love that and support it! And we don’t see any reason to put further limitations on that voice.
Thank you for raising your concerns and for hanging out with Shelli’s Sunday Vibes.
I hope you do get to sit on a beautiful girl’s couch & play with her hair! BTW liking the category banners.
congratulations on this new column, shelli! i love your voice and your love for community so much, we are really lucky to have you curating these vibes on autostraddle. <3
ok this sunday playlist is about to become my monday morning work playlist, thank you!! the aesthetics of this column are so sweet and peaceful!
this is SO lovely, super looking forward to reading this in the upcoming weeks:)
love it. sundays are my fave too