Nico, Author at Autostraddle

"I keep thinking maybe they're an avoidant personality style and that they'll come back and say they made a mistake and they do want to date me."

‘I Can’t Stop Thinking About the What-Ifs With Someone I Dated for Two Months’

While using knowledge about one’s attachment style to build lines of communication with a partner and to manage conflict can be super helpful, letting yourself hang onto false hope because…

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Sep 24, 2024

book features

Anarchist Author Margaret Killjoy Crafts Trans Worlds in the Woods

Margaret Killjoy is a master world-builder. Her first young adult book, The Sapling Cage, comes out next month.

Nico

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Aug 29, 2024

beauty

A Queer History of Blue Eyeshadow, Pop Culture’s Time-Honored Symbolic Hue

The line from Elizabeth Taylor to Chappell Roan’s iconic blue eyeshadow is actually pretty direct.

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Aug 8, 2024

A black and white image of Pauly Likens photoshopped among color images of flowers

politics + activism

Trans Teen Pauly Likens’ Murder Haunts Her Rural Pennsylvania Community

Pauly Likens was a 14-year-old trans girl. She had a core group of close friends, and she was seen by them, and loved by them and by her family.

Nico

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Jul 23, 2024

first person

Growing Up Queer With a Narcissistic Mother Was Its Own Special Hell

The twisted protagonist’s mommy issues in Elle Nash’s ‘Deliver Me’ were far too relatable for comfort.

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Jul 11, 2024

politics + activism

Sue Kerr Is Keeping Lesbian Blogging Alive

In 2013, Sue Kerr published her first memorial post for a lost trans life to her blog Pittsburgh Lesbian Correspondents, which has been running since 2005. More than a decade…

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Jun 27, 2024

first person

Untethered: Between the Mobile Dungeon and the Infamous Adult Store, Longing for a Safe Third Space

“The way someone takes responsibility for or shares a space can say a lot about them.”

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May 30, 2024

the feature image for untethered shows a group of people gathered for a funeral, as well as a collaged image of a horse and of a fly

first person

Untethered: Visiting Other Peoples’ Families and Unhinged Horse Lesbians

She grabbed my hand and smashed a tomato with her homemade caesar dressing into my palm.

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May 16, 2024

comedy

I’m the Most Popular Person at This Suburban Target (Because I’m Wearing a Tee That Says ‘I Heart Hot Moms’)

I had purchased the shirt while on a trip with my ex-girlfriend, who is not a mother.

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May 12, 2024

first person

Untethered: I Can’t Stop Talking About Money

It feels like everyone talks and does not talk about money, especially now, especially while we wade knee-deep through inflation that I believe is not so much inflation but rather…

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May 2, 2024

two people standing close together with the words YOU NEED HELP

sex

How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?

The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.

Nico

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Apr 23, 2024

UNTETHERED with a plane, map of pittsburgh, buffalo, and suitcase

first person

Untethered: How Do You Know You’re Living Where You Want To Be?

This dissolution of home presents a lot of choices — how I’ll spend my time — who I’ll visit, when, for what holidays if any.

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Apr 18, 2024

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‘I Can’t Stop Thinking About the What-Ifs With Someone I Dated for Two Months’

Anarchist Author Margaret Killjoy Crafts Trans Worlds in the Woods

A Queer History of Blue Eyeshadow, Pop Culture’s Time-Honored Symbolic Hue

Trans Teen Pauly Likens’ Murder Haunts Her Rural Pennsylvania Community

Growing Up Queer With a Narcissistic Mother Was Its Own Special Hell

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Untethered: Between the Mobile Dungeon and the Infamous Adult Store, Longing for a Safe Third Space

Untethered: Visiting Other Peoples’ Families and Unhinged Horse Lesbians

I’m the Most Popular Person at This Suburban Target (Because I’m Wearing a Tee That Says ‘I Heart Hot Moms’)

Untethered: I Can’t Stop Talking About Money

How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?

Untethered: How Do You Know You’re Living Where You Want To Be?

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The Real Aunt Gladys Lurking in Suburban Homes

Robin Wright as a Ruthless Monster-in-Law in ‘The Girlfriend’ Gave Me Flashbacks

Fighting for Our Lives

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The Real Aunt Gladys Lurking in Suburban Homes

Robin Wright as a Ruthless Monster-in-Law in ‘The Girlfriend’ Gave Me Flashbacks

Fighting for Our Lives

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

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