Who would have thought that all the queer cinema, books, and culture I voraciously consumed for the past 20 years meant I wasn’t straight? Not me, apparently. Recently realizing I have only ever dated men who were my long time friends first, coupled with my romantic and sexual longing for women for basically all my life (that I just wouldn’t admit to myself), means that my pendulum has swung rapidly from mostly straight to mostly lesbian. I now have a hard time imagining ever being with a guy again.

Just trying to figure out where I fit in!